How do you get to know people on SW?

I get a feel for who they are and what they value by reading their postings including answers to questions. I generally find that people treat others how they like to be treated. I ask emotional questions. For example, what makes you laugh? Cry? What causes do you support? What are your priorities in life? How have you changed from your 20's, 30's, etc.? What are you passionate about? These kinds of questions enable you to know a person fast. Online is about establishing a rapport and a trust. It also requires some sort of frequency. I often have friends leave me words so I may reply in time.

First of all I have no expectations. That avoids disappointment. Any connection or friendship that developes happens by random chance and by both recognizing the click.

All of my best connections on EP were with people who responded to my stories with insightful comments. That usually carried on into private messages later. It just hasn't happened this time around on SW. The only people that reach out to me are the fetish seekers or men who want to flirt.

I don’t necessarily have to ask them anything. I find it most instructive to look at their posts and observe their interactions with others.

I try and determine that by their posts. It helps me to determine who has common interests, or who is just interesting.

It takes time to weed thru to find the good ones.. I've found a few but I'm not on here long enough on any given day to find more. : /

I have met several people here and I try to get to know their thoughts and as much personal information as they are comfortable sharing. We start exchanging messages and I think sometimes I overwhelm them by writing lengthy messages or write too often. I don't think I've asked questions that are "too personal", but I let them know they can share anything they want to share. I hope you have better luck than I have had so far!

Ask if they are from Tennessee

Contact someone who seems to share your interests or hobbies or someone who asks the SW community advice on a problem that you have a solution for. Skip anyone who appears to be a "troll" or asks you intimate, or embarrassing, questions or invites you to get spanked by him or her. (If this last contacts you, BLOCK them.)

So, my advice is to read people's stories that you find interesting and use that as an ice-breaker

whatever you do in real, face to face conversations....do here...same people...same world...

Post and if i like what i see i msg them.

Face to face is the best to know someon than online