Are you a friends person, or a non-friends person?

I've pretty much been a non-friends person my whole life. I believe this is because I've been neuro-atypical and socially phobic my whole life. It reflects in my views on sex and relationships also.

I have zero knowledge of whether this is from birth (or pre-birth) or caused by (very) early childhood conditioning based around what I recall as being a very unhealthy psychologically-speaking family situation. My parents are both dead so can't ask them.

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Heineken · 51-55, M

If I’m your friend, I’ll be the best friend you ever had. If I’m an enemy then god bless you

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

I have a small close friendship group, there's five of us in total, we have known each other a long time, I met most of them through work. I also have a wider circle who I don't trust as much but are still fun to be around.

I'm guessing the reason you prefer to be quite insular is because of your ASD. My son is the same, he much prefers his own company.

Sutten · 36-40, F

I have no problem being a friend’s person, but it needs to be mutual in terms of effort. I can’t be the only one reaching out, checking in, and keeping things going. I understand that sometimes people have things going on in life and need to step back, but if it becomes a habit in a way that feels deliberate, I distance myself.

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