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I just feel like crap

It’s been bothering me and I’m just trying to get over it. I was trying to be nice and hang out with a guy I didn’t really care to be around. I felt bad his friends ditch him. He spent a lot of money so I said Yeah we can hang. I had plans and I canceled them. He complained about everything little thing. When there wasn’t any left to complain about he talked badly about his mom. I think I started from here to get depressed. The next day when we started to hangout again it’s like he didn’t want to do anything. I mentioned a lot of ideas and places and it was like talking to a Debbie Downer. I just went off on him. And he gave me this whole speech about how I’m such a horrible friend. So I left. I just feel upset because I really tried to be a really good friend. I did not have to do any of this

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TheBatQueen · 22-25, F

It's not your fault, you tried to help gave him suggestions on where to go and he kept turning you down.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@TheBatQueen Thank you it probably didn’t have anything to do with me. He was upset for being ditched.

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TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@TheBatQueen I agree. Well, I am in a better space. I do want better friends. So this experience helps.

UBotMate

I think he showed you why nobody else hangs out with him. He's stuck in a spiral of negativity and that just isn't attractive. People have enough problems in life without being dragged into the mud by someone else.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@UBotMate I see that. And I think that’s why I wanted to hang out with him to help him or be some kind of light. I can’t do that. Because that’s exactly what happened I was dragged. I see it now. You can’t help those people.

in10RjFox · M

It looks like you played a bit hard to get and he has used the sympathy route to get you. And this is another tactic of blaming you so you would retaliate and act good by his books. And his books would keep changing to his benefit. Most gals fall for it as the story goes on.

He was nowhere in your mind before but now he is occupying all of it and bitterness that lasts long.

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TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@TheeRoyalBee by the way, he’s a friend we already established that

in10RjFox · M

@TheeRoyalBee

I was trying to be nice and hang out with a guy I didn’t really care to be around.

Not the way to establish a friend.

By playing hard, I meant that you may have ignored him in the past for his attempts. But he may have been trying to hook up with you without your knowledge.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@in10RjFox so I’ve hung out with him before as a FRIEND. Established our title as FRIENDS. lol. Umm I’m a very direct person so there’s no confusion.
I did make sure we’re were on the same page from 2 years ago. We’ve been friends that text here and there for 2 years. I like to think he was hurt from his boyfriends that ditched him. To me that makes sense.

Now he has some personality traits I can’t be around too long however he has some good parts. So he’s not the kind of person I would like around me however I still (have) support him. He mentioned he wanted to change like to stop complaining so much. But after hanging out with him there wasn’t any progress.

twiigss · M

Man I would have given anything to be in his position where someone wants to hang out with me. We would have done everything and gone to fun places and had a really great time.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@twiigss exactly especially when you spent a lot of money to see your friends and at the last minute they ditched you. I would love that. Not every time you get a chance to turn your bad experience around.

jackrabbit10 · M

dont fell bad not your fault he had problems he blamed you for, your better than that,

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@jackrabbit10 you know I took a nap and now I feel better. I know it’s not my fault. It’s really just upsetting to waste time. I realize it’s not about me and he might have just been lashing out on me from his hurt feelings. He’s looking for a punching bag

jackrabbit10 · M

@TheeRoyalBee dont let the punching bag be you,

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@jackrabbit10 it was me and now it’s not :)
I feel much better today. I’ve been cutting people off in my life since the beginning of this year for a better life and it feels better.

YoMomma · 41-45

Yeah that was a mistake..

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TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@YoMomma ohhhhh that’s not good
Well I’m glad it didn’t happen

YoMomma · 41-45

@TheeRoyalBee anyway all the guys i knew were super shy 😅

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@YoMomma Good. I wish guys were more shy lol

RisingMorningStar7 · 36-40, M

yea, you wanted to him to spend money. I avoid people that want positiveness kinda makes me feel like they will be first to complain if society collapse.

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TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@RisingMorningStar7 lol 🤣whatever you’ll be back tomorrow.
Have a good one ✌

RisingMorningStar7 · 36-40, M

@TheeRoyalBee Nope, if i'm on here is for reason you don't know. I have to hit the books and focus in other things.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@RisingMorningStar7 you seem pretty busy on here talking about God and women. But good luck, in school?

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Don't hang out with people out of pity next time.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@CrazyMusicLover Noted! I learned my lesson.

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