I just feel like crap

It’s been bothering me and I’m just trying to get over it. I was trying to be nice and hang out with a guy I didn’t really care to be around. I felt bad his friends ditch him. He spent a lot of money so I said Yeah we can hang. I had plans and I canceled them. He complained about everything little thing. When there wasn’t any left to complain about he talked badly about his mom. I think I started from here to get depressed. The next day when we started to hangout again it’s like he didn’t want to do anything. I mentioned a lot of ideas and places and it was like talking to a Debbie Downer. I just went off on him. And he gave me this whole speech about how I’m such a horrible friend. So I left. I just feel upset because I really tried to be a really good friend. I did not have to do any of this

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in10RjFox · M

It looks like you played a bit hard to get and he has used the sympathy route to get you. And this is another tactic of blaming you so you would retaliate and act good by his books. And his books would keep changing to his benefit. Most gals fall for it as the story goes on.

He was nowhere in your mind before but now he is occupying all of it and bitterness that lasts long.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@in10RjFox He really wasn’t on my mind. He’s in and out my life. He reach out to me to hang out and about his problems of being ditched.

I don’t need to play? What would be the purpose?

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@TheeRoyalBee by the way, he’s a friend we already established that

in10RjFox · M

@TheeRoyalBee

I was trying to be nice and hang out with a guy I didn’t really care to be around.

Not the way to establish a friend.

By playing hard, I meant that you may have ignored him in the past for his attempts. But he may have been trying to hook up with you without your knowledge.

TheeRoyalBee · 31-35, F

@in10RjFox so I’ve hung out with him before as a FRIEND. Established our title as FRIENDS. lol. Umm I’m a very direct person so there’s no confusion.
I did make sure we’re were on the same page from 2 years ago. We’ve been friends that text here and there for 2 years. I like to think he was hurt from his boyfriends that ditched him. To me that makes sense.

Now he has some personality traits I can’t be around too long however he has some good parts. So he’s not the kind of person I would like around me however I still (have) support him. He mentioned he wanted to change like to stop complaining so much. But after hanging out with him there wasn’t any progress.