Have you ever lost a friendship you thought would last?

Yes, twice.
First was a friend of a little more than 10 years. We ended up going our separate ways as we were in different stages of our lives. Her kids were older than mine and I wasn't able to 'go out' like she could and it sadly drove a wedge between us.
Second was my longtime best friend since HS and college roommate. After college, we went our separate ways for a few years, but kept in touch through text and social media. We later reconnected and picked back up right where we left off. However, after some time I began to discover some things I didn't care for about her. I discovered she was running around on her husband. To the point of abandoning him and her 2 small children to go 'shack up' with another man. Being a mom to 2 girls myself I just couldn't comprehend how she could do that. So slowly, over time, I just allowed our friendship to dissolve.

At this stage in my life I am more about quality of friendship than quantity.

Too many to count, including my best friend since middle school. We were each other’s person for years after we graduated…even each other’s bridesmaids, but the older we got the more her faith took precedence in her life and the less we had in common. I had a family before she did, so that became my focus in life as she naturally gravitated to those around her who she had more in common with. The only interaction I’ve had with her in the past 20 years was seeing her in a parking lot nearly ten years ago, and there was no trace of us once being close to each other. Was just another occurrence of two people who went to high school running into each other.

I was actually having this conversation with a friend today about some of the online friends I've had. A lot of them I lost because I outgrew them and realised how toxic they were. Someone in their 40's has no business being friends with an 18 year old anyway, that's weird and did more damage than I even noticed at the time. The others were just a matter of growing up to be a different person with different boundaries. That's normal.

Yes, we were best friends for 6 years at the time, then she liked this guy, and I helped them get together, then he was controlling and didn't want her to spend time with me. This caused tension in the friendship, and I didn't want to cause problems, so I distanced myself. A few years later she broke up with him and came back to me saying, its over she only then realized he was controlling. The damage was done in the friendship, so I just said oh and walked away. Things could never go back to how it was with us because everybody told her he was controlling but she refused to listen.

Yup. Treated her like a sister. Lost her like a stranger.
I'm not opening that door again.

I was giving to her, drained as I had been. Time, energy, listening ears and concern. Either she didn't realize I was pouring from an empty cup or she didn't care. Idk what reasons she really have. But for me, it felt like when I couldn't give my usual and what she needed, any sort of good relations meant nothing. Apparently, grief and physical and emotion exhaustion was not an excuse to put your own limits over others. It felt like I was expected to give and conjure things out of thin air.

So I let it go. She reaches out on occasions. I reply. But I have no plan on giving her any more energy than I would a stranger.

I guess there's still a part of me that's bitter. But that's what I got for having expectations and thinking of someone as closer than family.

Your story?

I'm not looking for a generic answer of a general friendship that just runs its course and fades away or grows apart. Those happen all the time.
I'm looking for a specific incident that resulted in the end of a friendship you thought would last forever and the details of it. If this is something you have never experienced then move along.

Her husband meddled in our friendship and caused problems. I think he was jealous. He would do things like pick up her phone and read out loud my text messages and make snide remarks.

A few i think it's just natural even good friends can become distant and fade as everyone grows and changes into themselves

Yes. After 13+ years of phone, mail, and email conversations and interactions, in which we frequently confided and shared both good and bad, laughter and tears, she ever so casually and nonchalantly informed me that I "had no role in her life". What a kick in the gut.

So I said goodbye and ended the facade.

Yeah it's still a very confusing and traumatizing experience for me. I don't think I'll ever get over it.

My best friends always move away or pass away

He was radicalized by politics. I think the fog is now beginning to clear.

He wasn't who I thought he was.
I couldn't live with who he was.
A user of people.

yes and it was surprising. i was done dirty by a friend of over 40+ years. talked to her twice per week and then she really crapped on me. i stopped speaking to her.

Yes. He moved away. Later, I found out he had tried to have sex with my wife, so the friendship would have ended anyway.

Of course
IDK

Sometimes people outgrow each other ...it happens

I did, as to what happened… that’s a long story

they said I should call because it was too expensive for them to call me

Yes…
Less and less communication led to radio silence and distance

A couple of people here took a hard right I never saw coming. 🥺

Not exactly just drifted apart