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Casheyane · 31-35, F
Yup. Treated her like a sister. Lost her like a stranger.
I'm not opening that door again.
I was giving to her, drained as I had been. Time, energy, listening ears and concern. Either she didn't realize I was pouring from an empty cup or she didn't care. Idk what reasons she really have. But for me, it felt like when I couldn't give my usual and what she needed, any sort of good relations meant nothing. Apparently, grief and physical and emotion exhaustion was not an excuse to put your own limits over others. It felt like I was expected to give and conjure things out of thin air.
So I let it go. She reaches out on occasions. I reply. But I have no plan on giving her any more energy than I would a stranger.
I guess there's still a part of me that's bitter. But that's what I got for having expectations and thinking of someone as closer than family.
Your story?
I'm not opening that door again.
I was giving to her, drained as I had been. Time, energy, listening ears and concern. Either she didn't realize I was pouring from an empty cup or she didn't care. Idk what reasons she really have. But for me, it felt like when I couldn't give my usual and what she needed, any sort of good relations meant nothing. Apparently, grief and physical and emotion exhaustion was not an excuse to put your own limits over others. It felt like I was expected to give and conjure things out of thin air.
So I let it go. She reaches out on occasions. I reply. But I have no plan on giving her any more energy than I would a stranger.
I guess there's still a part of me that's bitter. But that's what I got for having expectations and thinking of someone as closer than family.
Your story?
StarsMISaligned · 51-55, F
@Casheyane I had a very close childhood friend. She helped me through childhood abuse and lifes tribulations. She had kids and I had a child. She had been living out of state and got into a terrible car accident...broke her back among other things. While recovering I allowed her and her kids to come stay with me. While I opened my home to her, she was sneaking my pre-teen son alcohol and cigarettes and weed!!! When I found out, i kicked her and her kids out. Have not spoken a word to her since then. Never have shed a tear over it either. The betrayal!!