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Sutten · 36-40, F
Yes, we were best friends for 6 years at the time, then she liked this guy, and I helped them get together, then he was controlling and didn't want her to spend time with me. This caused tension in the friendship, and I didn't want to cause problems, so I distanced myself. A few years later she broke up with him and came back to me saying, its over she only then realized he was controlling. The damage was done in the friendship, so I just said oh and walked away. Things could never go back to how it was with us because everybody told her he was controlling but she refused to listen.
SW-User
@Sutten that's cold on your part
SW-User
@Sutten because someone in that situation aren't in their right mind it's a very toxic manipulative environment for them. They get alienated during these relationships and gaslit into rejecting any advice friends and family give it takes being away from the person who their lies and influence to break away.
Sutten · 36-40, F
@SW-User I understand. We were 15 years old at the time the relationship started and by the time the relationship ended, we were 18. That being said a lot happened besides what I mentioned in my earlier comment, things that she did and said to me. She used me a lot, I was the backup when she ignored him etc. and he would treat me badly because of her. I won't get into all those things. There are many sides to this story. I do understand what you mean about controlling relationships though and people not being able to see clearly.