@romell It's about planning, strategy and discipline.

@DeluxedEdition yes can't without that..no rocket science

@twistedrope We pretty much keep a likewise mindset and type of hobbies then hehe 😁 I like (re)-watching movies and series too, reading books, writing my own books (unpublished, they’re just an outlet), I still play the Sims 4 on pc and just like spending time with people around me and family ^^
I find it difficult to recuperate my mental energy that gets lost on work though these days, even if my hobbies are particularly focused on relaxation 😭 any tips on that? 😁

@kimmy159 Hm... Work is... Complicated. There are some things I like to help steal back some control over the work drain...

1. Write out plans clearly as consise. This preserves your memory gauge. As the day goes on, you will be able to retain less memory over a period of time which is why written paper lets you not have to retain so much. Personally, I read business processes by John Jeston to learn to write processes. Repetition and project based.

2. I'm testing out one note in office web to dictate writings but I think it has a great effect to prevent hand strain from typing. There's no pride to be gained by typing out excessively v.v

3. Talking with people at work is hard. Its very hard and you have to say no sometimes. I say no more then I'm comfortable with. There are models of communication, I learned mine from a book on HR communication, my process knowledge helped me with establishing process ownership (Especially when it wasn't me) and asserting myself.

At home its different.

Home is where safety should be so as long as you feel safe, that's one positive. Maslows hierachy of needs is a great place. Safety, esteem, physiological needs, all that jazz. If you're missing one, your ability to enjoy stuff goes down the toilet imo. Personally, I enjoy models of living. Mans search for meaning (Viktor Frankl)... The Karamasov Brothers (Fyodor Dostoevsky).. What happened to you? (Dr Bruce Perry)...

Talking about the things I like also de-stresses me. Some people are emotional vampires but my two friends don't steal energy from me, we gain more by talking. It's a lot and I read one of your other posts. Life is a lot.

What I will say is that a lot of women I've met consider it difficult to put their own mask of kindness and caring down and be more reactive and show things like discomfort or assert when they don't like something. Like, for a friend of mine it is an extreme stress for her to say "I am not comfortable right now, I'm leaving." Where as I can say it and not worry about it cuz its the truth. This may be wrong, it's just a guess. But living in a way that hides a persons feelings may feel like a small sacrifice but it can ruin your enjoyment of things. It's basically burying feelings and burying feelings is a gateway to feeling less until you struggle to enjoy anything at all. Speaking from my experiences at least. But I may be wrong, its a shot in the dark.

Would it be something like that? I hope it helps a bit.

Imo when I was a kid, a woman who can speak up for herself and be very concise about it like 5 words then calmly wait for a response was my hero.

@twistedrope ahhh ~ I already had that pre-vibe of you being insightful but you hit it on the mark now too 😁
I should say, that I was like that in my early twenties (not being able to speak out or execute my wishes even if it offended people), but luckily I’ve worked on that a lot and things are different now.
Family are the tricky ones though because you’re emotionally attached 😁 I still often go over my boundaries (energy wise or what I’m willing to put up with) but that’s only in situations that require it at the moment. Recuperating from that takes more than just an hour of relaxation. But as we learn through experiences, I usually recognize that for myself.
Eg: today I took a random day off work after the Easter Holidays just to focus on what I want to do 😁

As for my work, I have a lot of responsibilities where I need to put boundaries or I would not survive there. More than 3 out of the 20 people have / had a burnout this year alone in the company. Yet even with these boundaries I often need to work 50ish hours per week to do everything. It’s getting better now that I have a good colleague to support but there are often still things he needs me for 😁 I’m left to a very free shedule though. I work whenever I want to, go to the office how little/much I please etc. But the job itself requires constant speed, tactics, strategy and quick thinking/decision making, reporting and future thinking, so it just takes a lot from me. Nonetheless, it taught me so much and made me grow as a person so I do enjoy it, and I get paid a great salary 🙈 can’t complain but balancing my energies with having an almost 6 year old smart mischievous kid is a challenge on its own hehe.

Thanks for the tips! I already implement a lot of them 😁 but I’ll check out the other ones! 😁

@RohitKhanna I’m guessing it will be a tough year. I’m also not excluding the possibility they are playing around with the economy on purpose like a forced negative fluctuation to influence their own interests.

@kimmy159 yeah if you see Gold buying by central banks, Russia, China and Israel are the biggest buyers in last 4 yrs

@RohitKhanna
Suggest you sell off all your US Dollars while you're at it because the US$ is on it's way out.

@YoMomma You do? :0 why? 😁
Not judging, I just personally like a sense of financial Independence 😁

@SpudMuffin I agree. But its not always a positive. Paticularly at the start of the process.. And when companies measure a CEO by the next P/L statement, innovation is not front of mind..😷

@whowasthatmaskedman True enough! And when they have several businesses in several countries, it’s easy to manipulate the books in one of them ;)

@kimmy159 Exactly. Thats where the law breaks down..😷

@whowasthatmaskedman Ohhhh so that’s the secret! If I had known I wouldn’t have blocked the 4 princes who already contacted me 🥲

@kimmy159 I am in awe of their good taste in selecting you..😷

@whowasthatmaskedman I was born for the princess life 😂

@Jenny1234 have you had your surgery yet?

@Thrust I had it Thursday afternoon. It went well.

@Jenny1234

Eggcellent! 🥚

@vetguy1991 well done! 😁

@kimmy159 look at Warren Buffett and take his advise. It's not sexy but the returns are as regular as a bottle of Metamusal!

@Thrust hehehe as long as it works it doesn’t always need to be sexy 😂 that’s just an additional perk 😆

@kimmy159 I have a financial guy for the unsexy stuff. Follows Warren Buffet's homily.

Sexy stuff I do myself 😎

@kimmy159 thats a good thing?

@AllelujahHaptism To me it’s pretty much the same 😂 but it’s nice that I will be visiting new area’s again when I want to visit her haha. I can fly to Birmingham now instead 😁

@kimmy159 means alot of hearing a birmingham accent aswell though >.<

@Selah It’s a way of managing too hahah

@kimmy159
...true I suppose, I guess I am living a good life but I never really thought I was doing anything different than anyone else out here. The one thing I learned very early in life and have stuck with ever since... and I mean from as far back as my initial dating days in high school, was to never formally 'break up' with a guy when feelings for him started to wane. Instead, I learned to keep him firmly within my social life but with the understanding that we were now in an 'open' friendship or relationship. "Open friendship" is to mean, he can still socialize in my social circles with me if he wants to but if I like the look of his best friend, I won't hesitate to take his friend home with me if that's what I feel like I wouldn't mind doing in the moment! If he can't deal with that, then that's all about him, not me.

@swirlie Everyone can choose for themselves what works best ^^ I could see myself living that kind of life too emotion wise, but my husband could not and so I decided to adapt for him 😁 it’s not always easy but I saw the perks in that for myself as well. I’m quite honest in how I feel and communicate that too so there’s no real struggle that he’s not aware of 😁
Yet, I have no regrets so far 😁

@kimmy159
I agree with you that we have to choose what works best for each of us and sometimes those benchmarks change as our personal needs ebb and flow through life. As long as you have good communication skills and your husband is very good at listening, then you will continue to enjoy the best of both worlds!

@MarineBob I’m a woman, can I manage yours now? 😂

@Moneyonmymind Unfortunately that’s indeed the case 🥲 my husband and I balance our finances. He saves money and I spend it 😆 perfectly balanced (jk)

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout How bout I manage it for you? 🤣🤣

@kimmy159 In that case, I am good at managing my finances. 😂 😂

@ABCDEF7 hahahha 😂 see that got solved at record time hehe

@kimmy159 It's really a quick fix. 😂 😂

@kimmy159 I need to have them to manage them.

@Iwillwait True! *sending you good finance attracting vibes*

@kimmy159 💜🙏💜🤗