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swirlie · F
@kimmy159
...true I suppose, I guess I am living a good life but I never really thought I was doing anything different than anyone else out here. The one thing I learned very early in life and have stuck with ever since... and I mean from as far back as my initial dating days in high school, was to never formally 'break up' with a guy when feelings for him started to wane. Instead, I learned to keep him firmly within my social life but with the understanding that we were now in an 'open' friendship or relationship. "Open friendship" is to mean, he can still socialize in my social circles with me if he wants to but if I like the look of his best friend, I won't hesitate to take his friend home with me if that's what I feel like I wouldn't mind doing in the moment! If he can't deal with that, then that's all about him, not me.
...true I suppose, I guess I am living a good life but I never really thought I was doing anything different than anyone else out here. The one thing I learned very early in life and have stuck with ever since... and I mean from as far back as my initial dating days in high school, was to never formally 'break up' with a guy when feelings for him started to wane. Instead, I learned to keep him firmly within my social life but with the understanding that we were now in an 'open' friendship or relationship. "Open friendship" is to mean, he can still socialize in my social circles with me if he wants to but if I like the look of his best friend, I won't hesitate to take his friend home with me if that's what I feel like I wouldn't mind doing in the moment! If he can't deal with that, then that's all about him, not me.
kimmy159 · F
@swirlie Everyone can choose for themselves what works best ^^ I could see myself living that kind of life too emotion wise, but my husband could not and so I decided to adapt for him 😁 it’s not always easy but I saw the perks in that for myself as well. I’m quite honest in how I feel and communicate that too so there’s no real struggle that he’s not aware of 😁
Yet, I have no regrets so far 😁
Yet, I have no regrets so far 😁
swirlie · F
@kimmy159
I agree with you that we have to choose what works best for each of us and sometimes those benchmarks change as our personal needs ebb and flow through life. As long as you have good communication skills and your husband is very good at listening, then you will continue to enjoy the best of both worlds!
I agree with you that we have to choose what works best for each of us and sometimes those benchmarks change as our personal needs ebb and flow through life. As long as you have good communication skills and your husband is very good at listening, then you will continue to enjoy the best of both worlds!