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angie8819 · 56-60, F
Tight clothes
bijouxbroussard · F
It can be any number of those things. One guy I adored was generally considered plain by others. But he was a kind person, and if you spent any time talking with him, you discovered he had a wonderful, intelligent sense of humor. And when he smiled or laughed (which he rarely did), he was beautiful. 😊
CookieCrumbs · F
@bijouxbroussard
I like how you described this wonderful person in your life. 😌 I hope he knows how much you appreciate him.
I like how you described this wonderful person in your life. 😌 I hope he knows how much you appreciate him.
bijouxbroussard · F
@CookieCrumbs I think he did.
CookieCrumbs · F
It’s the way they carry themselves. And this includes personality, body type, intelligence, etc.
And there’s also that attraction preference. What I find sexy may not be sexy by your attraction criteria/standards.
And there’s also that attraction preference. What I find sexy may not be sexy by your attraction criteria/standards.
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CookieCrumbs · F
@JesseInTX
It’s a certain mix that is unique per person.
And it can’t be just one feature like intelligence or personality. I’ve met highly intelligent people or those with such engaging personalities who I don’t find sexy.
It’s a certain mix that is unique per person.
And it can’t be just one feature like intelligence or personality. I’ve met highly intelligent people or those with such engaging personalities who I don’t find sexy.
JesseInTX · 51-55, M
@CookieCrumbs also very true. One quality alone doesn’t complete the whole picture. It’s a combination of qualities in my mind
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
@CookieCrumbs Exactly. I completely agree and couldn’t have said it better.
Ontheroad · M
I'm sure that I'm not sure. It isnt any one thing, at least nothing I can pin down.
I've become enchanted without ever seeing the person, just maybe talking or via email. Then when I did meet them or see a picture, her appearance simply didn't matter. So it isn't purely physical. I've also been enchanted seeing someone across the room... until i actually talked to them, so hot isn't it either.
So yeah, I can't say it is this or that.
EDIT: In the interest of being sincere/honest, it is true that looks do have a play in it, but mostly just a play in it.
I've become enchanted without ever seeing the person, just maybe talking or via email. Then when I did meet them or see a picture, her appearance simply didn't matter. So it isn't purely physical. I've also been enchanted seeing someone across the room... until i actually talked to them, so hot isn't it either.
So yeah, I can't say it is this or that.
EDIT: In the interest of being sincere/honest, it is true that looks do have a play in it, but mostly just a play in it.
Punches · 46-50, F
Let's be honest, it is mostly body type.
Without that, none of those other things are going to really help.
Basically "If the canvas is bad, the paint won't matter."
Without that, none of those other things are going to really help.
Basically "If the canvas is bad, the paint won't matter."
itsok · 31-35, F
@Punches It’s not that I am attracted specifically to people who don’t have “ideal” body types, it’s just that I never have the thought that someone has a body type that I find attractive, that has always come from their personality. I know tons of people that are conventionally physically unattractive and their personality still sucks 😁

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@Punches it's early here and I misread this as blood type, boy was I confused 😂😂😂
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
For me it is personality most of the time.. when someone is intelligent and kind, I am always attracted. Probably looks will matter, but I think I place more weight on how they think and behave. Because when someone is superficial, it doesn't matter how handsome they are, I hardly if EVER feel attracted the least.

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@BittersweetPotato I think so too
GeorgeTBH · 31-35, M
Yes
I'm honestly not sure. Some women are sexy in a turtleneck sweater and others aren't even when naked. Confidence came to mind as well, but being a bit shy can greatly enhance sexiness too. I haven't found any clear pattern yet. It's just a personal quality, I guess.
To me, it’s an assortment of the things ya mentioned it ultimately it’s all gotta work with their personality
OldBrit · 61-69, M
It starts with how they think. Then how they carry themselves that gives the look the walk the talk etc
JohnnyNoir · 61-69, M
Personality and confidence are key. A great sense of humor is also good

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Sense of humor,intelligence, compassionate ,kind,confident but not arrogant, ..looks really aren't important to me tbh looks fade eventually

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Physical characteristics and personality....
50% each of those.
50% each of those.
romell · 51-55, M
Its a healthy mix of all personality mannerism style
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
My Venus is in Gemini. I like everything.
cuddles1266 · 70-79, M
It is definitely the way they think. They can use their brain to say and do the things that turn others on and make them week in the knees.

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Personality and intelligence
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
For me its the whole package
Boleuskas · M
Hmm good question ...
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
All of that, and more.
BackyardShaman · 61-69, M
All the above except for clothes
Confidence

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Intelligence and the way they think. I want a man to be completely superior to me and most other people. I find it so exciting when they are very knowledgeable and demonstrably different and better than the average person, specifically in terms of intellect 🤭 I like dominant men.
Physically they need to be 5'11 ft or over. 6'1-6'3 is perfect 💖 I like a muscular frame but nothing extreme...just a guy who isn't skinny lol.
Physically they need to be 5'11 ft or over. 6'1-6'3 is perfect 💖 I like a muscular frame but nothing extreme...just a guy who isn't skinny lol.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
There are more types of sexiness in my books. 😅 But all of the above matters.
Someone confident enough in themselves to be vulnerable
Myself11 · 61-69, M
There personality is what makes people sexy in my opinion
bowman81 · M
Personality....
"The most important sex organ is the brain"
"The most important sex organ is the brain"
Tres13 · 51-55, M
by the way they lick an ice cream ....
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
All of the above and more

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Hey, these days, as long as they like me, they're hot 🤷🏻♀️
exexec · 70-79, C
I can't define it. My wife never considered herself to be sexy, but she drove some guys crazy....including me. Her smile, the way she looked at you, her touch, and having a beautiful face and nice body, even with small boobs, were a bonus.
zerofuks2give · 41-45, M
Nipples obviously 🙄
Punches · 46-50, F
@zerofuks2give The shortest and most honest answer on here.
But lemme ask you, how many fuks do you give if someone wants to argue otherwise with your answer? 😁
But lemme ask you, how many fuks do you give if someone wants to argue otherwise with your answer? 😁
zerofuks2give · 41-45, M
@Punches none at all 😁

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I don't even know anymore, I'm so closed off to most of these things. Maybe if she can whistle the theme tune to Knight Rider 🤔
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
If someone walks in the room and has presence
SpaceJesus · 41-45
🤔
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
Intelligence, empathy, sense of humour (or at least laughs at my crappy jokes), playfulness, wit. And also having stuff in common.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Compassionate, intelligent, kind, sense of humour, how they carry themselves and how they treat others
Bang5luts · M
Confidence, kindness, and doesn't take shit