Who thinks that being a homemaker is a perfectly valid occupation?

Say this to men too , as most priotise their career by using the excuse of the bread winner and are only working endlessly and are never present and like that we got generations of absent fathers

I do! The problem that too often arises is that in the case of divorce or death, a woman (or a man) can find herself or himself not only without money but also without employment history. That can be a rough row to hoe.

Some women have no choice ,but to work so I don't make any kind of judgment on them either way.
I don't think all women would do good staying home.
Some work part-time and balance their career and their home, not for me to judge.
Women should support each other whatever they choose.
I have been fortunate to be able to be a stay-at-home mom, not everyone has that option.
I have worked on and off throughout the years as needed ,but I don't regret being a homemaker.

There is nothing wrong with being a homemaker as an occupation, or whatever one wants to call it. People all have opinions and some spend way too much time telling others how to run their lives. Taking care of the home, meals, and children is every bit as important as a husband "bringing home the bacon". There is also nothing wrong with wanting a career. It's all about choices. I agree, your children should always come first. Some moms have to work however, to provide additional needed income. My doctor is a female and her husband is the homemaker. It's all about what works for you and your family (to be).

Perfectly valid if your husband makes enough to pay the bills and provide for the family

with the divorce rate as it is, i would never trust my future in the hands of another. that is power you are giving away. get a job. get an education. i did and i am so glad i did.

if a couple can afford it great. I take care of everything around here and make sure he comes home to a nice meal every night

I think everyone should just do what works best for them and their family

I am a stay at home mother, it works for us… I am lucky I have the opportunity to be home. Once my youngest starts school (2yrs from now)I will get a part time job most likely. Not quite sure what I’m doing yet

You lost me when you needed to put down other life paths to feel best about your own.

No path superior than another. Both have risks and advantages. Both can end up in fulfillment or regrets.

One thing I know is that someone who is fulfilled by their own life choices doesn't log online for approval while demonizing others'.

Yes, as long as you can afford it. For all intents and purposes, I'm Mr Mom. I make halfway decent money and work from home. I do most of the cooking and cleaning. (I got house cleaners once or twice a month. Sorry not sorrry.) No kids. But a dog. Our relationship is far from normal because she works out in the real world.

So don't get down on yourself to do what you do. I do what you do.

If you can make it work fine, but even if he is well off, I recommend learning a skill you can do from home to make money incase he becomes financially insolvent, or you find yourself in a physically abusive relationship. Even the kings of France had to learn a trade as a Prince.

It's a fine occupation, the only thing is these days it's super hard to raise kids on one income. Plenty of people, women and men, would probably be homemakers if they could afford it, but can't.

Homemaker is a perfectly valid occupation, regardless of gender.

I support you in your decision. I also think that it is not selfish to work and to have children. It is necessary in these times. In fact, if you married and raised a family while your spouse worked, what would you do if he died suddenly? Would you have relevant job skills to support yourself and your family? That is certainly something to seriously think about. Then there are other concerns. Sometimes couples who agree to traditional roles end up changing their minds. Raising children is hard work. My mom raised 7 of us while being a homemaker while my dad worked. Luckily she had the help of my oldest half-sister to help her. I know that my mom always wanted to work again outside the home but after 2 kids that was pretty well impossible. I think you should be prepared to consider these concerns I have mentioned as well as choosing a partner who is reliable, honest, and hard working. I think it takes two loving, committed parents to raise children. And mothers who are homemakers need breaks too. Kids require a lot of energy. That's why couples have kids together.

I don't think the initial idea of homemaker is bad but it's not an occupation and would be better if you had an online business or passive income for only yourself. The stories of men leaving their wives with nothing is common, there's a whole thing about it in groups and plenty on YouTube.

The only people who do trad wife thing and are successful, are social influencers who make a ton of money from selling products online. If you're just an average person looking at a man as a financial plan then no, it's not going to be an occupation once you get sick or old. Or what if your man dies etc. lots of things happen.

I'm sure that some people stay together almost all their lives but it's a gamble.


Those people are smart, being homeless when your man took your house from you isn't a nice place to be.

Not that I have personal experience but it's common with divorce. Not ending up in the streets or at a low paying job when you have no experience and huge gaps in employment at the age of 50 once you dedicated all your life to someone is a good thing.

Its definitely a valid occupation, a cleaner, launderer, chef, caregiver, day care worker, teacher, accountant, manager, taxi cab driver, keeper of medical records, medical check ups.... after less than 5 hours of sleep, your exausted.. then your baby gives you their first smile, your heart melts and its worth it! Being there for thier firsts, when they can hold their head up, sit up, stand up, first steps, first birthday, first christmas, first time riding a bike, first time they can read, first day of school, first time driving a car, first kiss.... you give up yourself for them ....remember, you are raising the next generation of leaders, doctors, lawyers, maybe the next president, do a good job, the world is counting on you!

I know @deadgerbil wants to be one

I agree completely

It didn’t work in my first marriage, but I will give my ex a 10/10 for being a great mother, and that has incredible value.

In the US it’s very difficult for a man to be a sole provider and make enough so that his family lives well. It’s often difficult when both parents work. Being a stay at home mom appears to be a luxury from my standpoint.

Despite the fact, if done well, it can be the hardest job in the world, resentment can build when there’s one paycheck, a continuous “honey do” list and limited sex. Maybe it’ll work for you, but be careful of the pitfalls. Your financial needs falling on his back 100% of the time… trust me, it gets old.

It is fine as long as it is your choice.
You should still get an education and have a means of making your own money in case things don't work out.

I’m a homemaker but I don’t own a home, I have no kids and no husband. I love being at home and not doing a lot, just housework. Husband and kids will make it hard.

Of course it is.

The reason we don't have fulltime homemakers a lot of the time now is very few people can afford to support a family on a single income.

That's between the two partners to decide, but mind you: a homemaker has no retirement age. That's an occupation for life

I have no kids and have always loved my work

@KimberleyAnne 🤔this is a bit of an old fashioned idea of the last century where the husband goes out too work and the wife stays at home and looks after the family . it would work well still today do not get me wrong and if your husband had a well paid job and your wife had no real reason too go out too work

Maybe for some people. But I'm not made that way. My brain needs to stay active, plus I like my independence

You are very much right and if my daughters want to make that choice, I will fully support them. But I also want them to have a good education in case (divorce, death of partner..) they must be able to sustain themselves.

Sounds like a typical traditional relationship. Which is usually a very stable relationship. Good choice

Perfectly valid and respectable means of occupation in my opinion. Provided that your partner earns enough to maintain the household and other expenses on their salary alone.

It is if you can find a provider who can afford to be the sole support in exchange for a full time homebody. Its just that there wont be many of them in this day and age..😷

Homemaker is an excellent profession because when moms stay at home they raise better children than children who are left on their own .Also ,the entire house converts into a home ,if the ladies take hold of familial responsibilities.
I still don’t know why the profession is looked down upon .
It’s something nobody aspires to be or got degree for ,yet its no less than holding a managerial position in an MNC 🧏‍♀

Nothing wrong with that. Women have the choice now to do what they want if they can afford ti.

I think in the 50's it worked because that was the expectation of society and of married couples. There were no other choices. Now the world is expensive. One has to be independent. Self supporting. I know only one couple that this works for currently. They are in their mid-thirties. And she works from home after their 3 kids are sleeping. They work hard at their marriage and their parents do at theirs too. Solid values. Solid marriage.

It has worked for us and we are very happy in our lives. We live in a DD relationship and its rare these day

I think if you can live on one income alone, there is absolutely nothing wrong with heing a homemaker. The high cost of living is what drove women from running the home and taking care of the kids ala 1950s Americana to the workforce. In most cases it wasn't the desire of women to do the same jobs as men for less compensation and less recognition. @KimberleyAnne if being a homemaker is your dream, by all means follow it!

It is perfectly valid, it´s admirable, there´s nothing absolutely wrong with it.

Kids ain't cheap, sides there's plenty of y'all in the BB and whatever. The real question is after the kids are in school what exactly are you doing all day?

Only Fans Amish addition?

Y'all goons really act like this has become looked down apon when the truth is everything costs so much more that it becomes nonsense for most people. But I guess if you're some kinda farmer it can work

I do, it's a hard job keeping a house in order and providing for the family.

I think you meant to say you would take care of your husband, kids then household

My ex-wife daughter's mother insisted she would not stay at home to take care of a child ever so I said fine when she was able to go back to work and ready to return I switched jobs and stayed at home with her daughter during the day and work the night shift. I did this for 3 years best 3 years of my life.

If y’all can afford it then go for it.

@KimberleyAnnewhat type of church do you attend? How do your beliefs in marriage affect your self worth ie is the maternal life being a mother in the home important in belief structure you have a lot of people nowadays who seem motherhood as a burden and it shouldn't be it should be a blessing.

This work is appreciated forever.

Perfectly valid.

It's valid but you ain't getting no socialism. No social protection for anything or anyone. Just no. Americans voted that even Mom's gotta wage labor forty hours a week always and no way anyone is at home! So you don't call that genocide, either!

I respect it

I would say it's probably the most rewarding career because you are making a solid impact on your own children

I would love to get married again and allow my wife to stay at home and take care of children

I think it's very valid. I had some time to stay with my son and it was amazing. If I didn't have to work I could definitely keep my days full of things I just can't do because my job takes up most of my days

Yes its valid