Who thinks that being a homemaker is a perfectly valid occupation?

I'm pretty sure I want to follow my mum and be a fulltime home-maker.
i want to be looked after and provided for, and in return I will look after the house and our children. I think it will be really fulfilling - watching my Mum it's hard work but even so..
I think traditional relationships have become under-rated - its not that men and women are not equal, but that we have different strengths and weaknesses and compliment each other perfectly as a result.
Its really sad that many people look on being a home-maker as a sort of second best option. And I want to be there for my children too.I think its really selfish to prioritize your career over your children.

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dumasme · 51-55, M

i think being a homemaker is a crucial and valid occupation. there are a number of skills and abilities that are taken for granted or, worse, denigrated with that term. Just off the top of my head, here are some KSAs for a homemaker role:
project management, communication, problem-solving, intelligence, analytical, patience, strategic thinking, etc... Homemakers (men or women) don't generally just sit around eating bon-bon's...

SatanBurger · 36-40, F

@dumasme You might have the skill sets but if you apply to jobs, especially higher paying ones, then they demand experience. If your trophy hubby decides to date someone younger and runs off as is common in the trad life community, then you don't have anything to put down.

A lot of employers aren't going to accept the "ex husband" as a reference for experience in project management especially if you haven't even had a job for 10 to 14 years except homemaking. You can apply and talk all you want to the head of the communications department about how you have experience in communicating with 2 year olds but it's not going to work.

There's a lot of trad wives that come out and literally have had that life for 14 to 20 years. Then something happens, husband dies or he runs off or worse, a few of them got really sick and he left them. Then they end up working at places like McDonalds.

The few trad wives who are successful are usually in the position of being an influencer or having their own side businesses but then if you have your own business, you're not technically a stay at home mom homemaker as you have a job.

dumasme · 51-55, M

@SatanBurger I completely get where you're coming from but, I think my answer stands in the context of her question.

SatanBurger · 36-40, F

@dumasme Thanks for being respectful but i think it only applies if you're a homemaker and have some sort of business references. No employer in an interview is going to care how you took care of your children, they're gonna ask for three years experience and ancedotal evidence isn't evidence.