@Caribbeanqueen 👍🏼👍🏼

@QueenOfTheNerds It’s definitely much more common these days

@QueenOfTheNerds And you shouldn’t! It’s none of their business.

@MorbidCynic My father terrified me; my younger brother laughed at him, mocked him, even. Same guy, just 10 years later.

@Applepiedom true that, thanks.

@Jai00123 I know first hand I was 41 when youngest was born. Midnight feedings were a b***h but he's a good kid and I'm still here,so it's survivable.

@smileylovesgaming really ? I wasn't aware. Thanks that's encouraging :)

@Jai00123 it is true. My parents had my baby brother in their late 40s

@smileylovesgaming wow amazing. good to know. can I ask how's your relation with your brother then ?

@whisperingwillow wow that was almost 40 years ago. yes exactly that's what my cousin told me that people would call you guys grandparents instead of parents when you would drop them to school.

what sort of advantages you think ?

@Jai00123 I was an older dad. As such, I was much more mature than I was in my 20's and had much more patience (parenthood requires TONS of patience). Plus we were on a firmer financial footing, could get our kids what they needed such as a house in a good school district.

@Jai00123 lol, yes. I’m 37 now.

I think there were plenty of advantages. Financial security, more patience…my mom always had a horrible temper but she’d calmed down quite a bit by the time she had me lol. My dad even started his own business after I was born. He’d worked crazy hours during my sister’s childhood and hadn’t been able to be as present as he would’ve liked. His new business enabled him to never miss a single school event and he was there for me any time I needed him. Overall everything was just much more balanced by their 30’s and they’d learned a LOT from raising my sister before having me lol Also, everyone also called me their little miracle and treated me like I was some magical unicorn 🤣🤣 So, advantages for me too lol

@graphite my mom had my first sister when I was 16. I was honestly jazzed to have her. She’s literally my best friend.

@graphite That imo isn't good parenting. Parents should be doing the parenting. That isn't the responsibility of the older children.

@Lanie78 You are basically right.

@MyNameIsHurl yes, you’re absolutely right. You need to be honest with yourself about your health. If you are not looking and feeling younger than you are, it’s probably not worth the risk. I was 49 and whilst pregnant I somehow never considered the risk to me. My concern was solely for the baby. In retrospect, I took a massive risk which now fills me with dread. It was a miracle that he went to term, was big, I was induced and I delivered him naturally (not by choice. I didn’t ask for an epidural in time and it was never suggested). I also had a delivery previously by caesarean.

If you have ever been induced and they need to give you a higher dose because your not progressing quickly enough, you’ll know what I mean when I say that those contractions are so incredibly hard, painful and quick succession. Nothing like a when in natural labour).

When I now think about all the risks I took, I’m extremely lucky to have come out the other end with a happy outcome.

But I’m also an example of that it can be done. But you need to be fit and healthy enough for the task, not your age!

@NudasPriest thanks for pointing out, I've corrected it now. :)