Second child in 40s

we both are just turned 40, and have a son 10 yrs old. we are really thinking of having second child but our age is making us nervous. we know it will have health impact however more so nervous about society, how would we be treated to be parent again at 40

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graphite · 61-69, M

Also, for the 10-year-old, suddenly going from an only child for a long time to the oldest of two and sharing the stage can be a shock to the system. Sent me on a tailspin when I went from the youngest to the next-youngest, after nearly a decade as the youngest. I've seen other people in the same situation who also had difficult adjustments.

Lanie78 · 46-50, F

@graphite My eldest was 12 when his brother came along. Yes took a little adjusting but it does no matter the age of the sibling. He was absolutely fine, and he was then 15 when my youngest came along. Not every child struggles with the changing family dynamics.

666Maggotz · F

@graphite my mom had my first sister when I was 16. I was honestly jazzed to have her. She’s literally my best friend.

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Lanie78 · 46-50, F

@graphite That imo isn't good parenting. Parents should be doing the parenting. That isn't the responsibility of the older children.