Second child in 40s

we both are just turned 40, and have a son 10 yrs old. we are really thinking of having second child but our age is making us nervous. we know it will have health impact however more so nervous about society, how would we be treated to be parent again at 40

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whisperingwillow · 36-40, F

Honestly, my parents were in their 40’s when they had me. A lot of times people thought they were my grandparents, but aside from that and apologies, no one ever treated them badly or anything. In fact, at this point you have a lot more advantages. If you’re able, I say go for it!

Jai00123 · 41-45, M

@whisperingwillow wow that was almost 40 years ago. yes exactly that's what my cousin told me that people would call you guys grandparents instead of parents when you would drop them to school.

what sort of advantages you think ?

ElwoodBlues · M

@Jai00123 I was an older dad. As such, I was much more mature than I was in my 20's and had much more patience (parenthood requires TONS of patience). Plus we were on a firmer financial footing, could get our kids what they needed such as a house in a good school district.

whisperingwillow · 36-40, F

@Jai00123 lol, yes. I’m 37 now.

I think there were plenty of advantages. Financial security, more patience…my mom always had a horrible temper but she’d calmed down quite a bit by the time she had me lol. My dad even started his own business after I was born. He’d worked crazy hours during my sister’s childhood and hadn’t been able to be as present as he would’ve liked. His new business enabled him to never miss a single school event and he was there for me any time I needed him. Overall everything was just much more balanced by their 30’s and they’d learned a LOT from raising my sister before having me lol Also, everyone also called me their little miracle and treated me like I was some magical unicorn 🤣🤣 So, advantages for me too lol