Time for girl talk So the moment of parenthood that I was dreading most of all came about...

I did date a couple of boys when I was 14 and 15 but that's all it was and at that age it normally comes to nothing.
It depends if the cycling is for friendship or seen as a date I suppose.
I always had a crush on one boy but we were never in each others classes and until the last two months only smiled at each other.
I hope your daughter enjoys his company and they can maybe be good friends if she's too young for now.

TryingtoLava

Aweee its a crush :) cycling isnt a date and ya know how girls are when were 13 and liked a boy! Dont stress out anddd you dont know if he likes her back

MommyLucy · 36-40, F

[b] Awwwww! 💖💖💖 [/b] [c=008099] Bless her sooo much! 🤗🤗🤗 My advice is let them see each other but tell her they are only friends to start with and see where things go slowly! 🤗🤗🤗 My precious husband was my only boyfriend but we were best friends years before we went out! 😂😂😂 What is important is to make happy memories by having fun, not make decisions too quickly! 😘😘😘 Maybe you could take them both to the movie theater or to a trampoline park or some fun outside activity! 😁😁😁 Teenagers need friends not boyfriends or girlfriends straight away but friendship they need for sure! 😝😝😝 [/c]

TexChik · F

My daughter is 13, too! She has definitely started catching the eyes of the boys. She homeschools, so when she goes to the local High School's basketball games with her friends, she gets swarmed by them.

SatanBurger · 36-40, F

I think some of the apprehensiveness is just from the fact you don't know the boy and there's lots of unknowns there. Same thing in adulthood tho, you don't want your daughter getting hurt by some dude, you kind of want her first crush to be decent. I kinda think that's more the issue here rather than her wanting to cycle because cycling seems like a nice activity to do rather than drinking.

That's just my thoughts, for me it would just be more for the fact that I don't know this other person very well and it's all about trust.

SammyJo · 51-55, F

Hope it goes ok...just try to take it as an everyday kind of friendship. I agree about being wary of the popular kids - maybe that was 'cos I wasn't super popular myself, back in the day? - but it will be what it will be.

I have the same apprehensions over our youngest daughter. She'll be 10 in June and, thankfully (in some ways), she has her head and heart fully immersed in music and playing guitar at the moment.

But we never know what's gonna happen in the future..

🤔

SJD xx

Ontheroad · M

I'm going to be rude and interject some dad talk... if you haven't already "had the talk", it is time, as in before she goes out bicycling with him.

If he is as popular as you say, he very likely feels pretty full of himself, and guys who feel that way will take liberties that can lead to unfortunate outcomes.

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

Make sure he has had his flu shot.

ineedadrink · 51-55, M

"No" is an unpopular yet oftentimes necessary word. 15 y.o. popular guy with a 13 y.o. girl is problematic in my unsolicited opinion unless it's a group type event. In public.

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

Oh my! Yes, these are treacherous waters, indeed! I have no advice, but wish you Godspeed on your journey!!! 😳

OldGrandDad · M

So you see it as distraction? I think part of the issue is not with your daughter. Having raised two now grown daughters. I never saw becoming of an age where they were interested in boys as a distraction. Perhaps I don't understand your use of the word. Distracted from what?

Convivial · 26-30, F

The time has come, the walrus said, to speak of many things ...

She a good kid, trust her

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