Meeting with attorneys today…

Well get your own banking for one remove your name from everything you have joint or have those account closed .Do not fight over small things remember the quicker you get it over with the better. If you have life insurance change the beneficiary because if you do not and something happens to you he gets it no matter want .If you own your own car make sure you get your own insurance which has nothing to do with him .

Ask them if they know of any support groups.

Hang in there

There is life on the other side of this

Depending upon the state you live in, it's a fairly simple process... heart-wrenching and takes time, but not complicated.

Most lawyers that do divorces have a rote process they will lead you through. It only gets complicated if your spouse wants to fight it, but if you just want it done and over with, the process is simple.

Depends a bit on your situation. I had shared accounts, kids, property, and 20 yrs. It could be really easy and simple if you don't have a lot of things combined. Mostly just whatever emotional investment you have. Or It could be messy fight over petty cash.

Friend of mine told story of her first divorce and how mediation was over $400 us. Lawyer cost more than the fight. Sometimes it goes that way. I gave up on $50k because litigating would have cost more and I got custody so... keep perspective of your goals and what is important to you. The rest is probably sillyness.

Having survived it, I can say that it is not easy; emotionally, financially, or physically.

Just do what is best for you.

Now is the time to be selfish.

Separation is painful

But hope its in best interest of you going forward

Sorry to hear that, good luck. Just have them lay out all your options, so you can make a good decision for yourself.

I’m sorry. Just wanted to express my condolences. Good luck. 🫂

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Good luck to you.

Oh no, that stinks. Did your husband initiate that, or is it you? He knows?

Mostly they will want to know about the things you own in common. For them it's about dividing assets. You might want to seek out counseling for your emotional needs. Your attorney may have a recommendation. Best of luck to you.

We did one for. Irreconcilable differences. Hope your is not difficult.

At what stage are you? are you going to initiate the process or are the proceedings already on ?

Divorce with mutual consent is lot easier as it is as simple as Marriage. The problem happens only if any of the parties contest.

Yes since no kids involved, adults can come to their own understanding. An attorney is just going to help you file and it would also make his job easier if you are well prepared.

I’m sorry you are facing this.

Good luck sweetheart.

Idk. But good luck.

Idk but im very curious too, if you share the process would be very helpful. ❤️

divorcee here:

questions for lawyer:

1. outline process start to finish (clearly state your desired outcome, what you absolutely must get from this divorcee in order to move on)

2. does your state/province/territory recognize fault or no-fault (NY state recognizes both)

3. provide a list of documents to gather for a successful end to your marriage (financial records, property deeds, prenuptial agreements, etc..)

4. total cost of the divorce (legal fees, court fees, expenses, etc..)

5. how long will it take?

6. what are your rights to perpety and assets

7. can you mediate or settle out of court to save money and time (avoid an actual trial if at all possible)

8. what should you NOT do? there might be things you are doing or are going to do that could damage you case for a divorce

find comfort soon

i'll share the process for my divorce (it was in NY state, laws where you live would be different)

i confirmed residency before i filed. we both lived in NY state for over 10+ yrs

my grounds for divorce was 'no fault', 'irretrievable breakdown of the marriage' (ny state recognizes fault and no-fault)

spent a great deal of time getting all the financial records, deeds to the property, prenup, etc. about 1 week

filed the summons notice with the county clerk office, paid the filing fee and got a case number

my lawyer served her lawyer the notice. in ny state only adults who aren't part of the divorce can serve notice.

my spouse had 20 days to reply b/c we were both in the state. i think if she was outside ny state she would have more time but i don't remember how much

if she didn't reply then the court would judge the divorce not contested. she did reply within a week and didn't contest the divorce

we settled out of court using our lawyers to decide on division of our assets and property. the prenup was helpful but i gave more that what was in the agreement b/c it was fair. really happy we didn't go to court

the court reviewed our settlement and issued the decree within a month, ending the marriage. i think the decree was done in a couple of weeks but i wasn't in a rush and when i went to the court house to get the decree document it was dated earlier

all together it was less than 3 months

the clerks at the courthouse were always patient and helpful on the phone and in person

get a good lawyer first. good luck