Meeting with attorneys today…

…to start getting an understanding of the separation and divorce process. I know very little of this. We have no kids which I suppose makes things a bit easier but wondering how painful this process is? Anything in particular I should ask the attorneys I speak to?

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Trekker · 51-55, M

Depends a bit on your situation. I had shared accounts, kids, property, and 20 yrs. It could be really easy and simple if you don't have a lot of things combined. Mostly just whatever emotional investment you have. Or It could be messy fight over petty cash.

Friend of mine told story of her first divorce and how mediation was over $400 us. Lawyer cost more than the fight. Sometimes it goes that way. I gave up on $50k because litigating would have cost more and I got custody so... keep perspective of your goals and what is important to you. The rest is probably sillyness.

Trekker · 51-55, M

@Trekker also attorneys are there to make money. Stick with what you want to accomplish and get out of it, but keep in mind they are sharks and do it for a living. Figure out what you want and don't let them lead you. They work for you, but will word and play games and create opportunities for them to get more money. That's their game, you don't have to play it.