She can't make things easy

When she told me she need time apart i didn't fight her. I packed a bag and left. Well I packed all summer clothes and its getting cold. I asked her if i could come into our house and just get a more clothes. She told me she'd let me know when it was a good time. Since i left she won't even let me into the house. I am trying to be understanding but come on. I need my clothes.

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NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

You need to hire an attorney asap. Protect yourself, so you don’t end up getting blind sided

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NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy101 yeah I do know. Just don’t want to see you get taken advantage of just because you allowed her time and space.

It could very well be used against you now since you are not occupying the residence. Calling the police likely won’t help either. I hope that won’t happen but but her not giving you something as simple as your clothes is pretty fucked up.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@NewBeginnings7790
Ugh this isn't what i want at all. I need to be home with my family!!

Anyway i dropped the kids off and i told her i needed some things. She tried to stop me but my son said mom im tired of dad wearing the same shirts everyday and he got cold tonight. She looked at me then let me in. Yeah i put him up to it. Crumble cookies for this weekend lol.

NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy101 I’m sorry you’re going through this, I’m a big believer in fighting for what you want and believe in. Maybe she’s hurt, maybe she needs something more. But if you love her, fight for her. Ask her what her needs are, and if and how you can put things back together.

BrokenAbyss

Get legal help. Don’t let her start playing games.

HootyTheNightOwl

Can't you just turn up with the police for your belongings???

She can't deny you your personal possessions like clothes... and it's hard for her to claim that they are not your clothes at the end of the day.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@HootyTheNightOwl
Im trying hard to keep things civil for the kids but its getting to the point where i may have to do something. I don't have the extra money to buy new clothes and i shouldn't have to when i have a whole closet full. I worry about calling the police and me having a outburst. I could back fire on me

HootyTheNightOwl

@Cigarguy101 That's what the idea of having the police is there for... to help to keep you focused on what you are there for as much as to keep the peace between you both.

If you go with the police, you will be told not to talk to her and they will try to keep you apart to eliminate the potential for you both to get into it again.

You can expect to feel rushed, so try to have a mental picture of exactly what you want and where it is located within the house as best as you can so that you can walk in, put your hands on it and get straight back out in the shortest time possible.

If you're running through all this in your head, I don't think that you would be so inclined to have an outburst... but you have your children for added incentive to keep your anger in check if you do feel it rising.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@HootyTheNightOwl
My plan is to call when my friend is working. He understands my issues and my wife likes him. I think if i show up with him there it will go better. Even if i have a outburst he knows why and i wont hurt anyone.

Stillwaiting · M

Your house and you have keys .. go get them when she's gone. She has no right to do this to you to have a little time apart if there is no restraining order etc involved.

Then go hire a lawyer. Seems highly likely you need one.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Stillwaiting no restraining order. Just trying to give her space like she wants

SW-User

Dude. You need permission to get your clothes from your own house?

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@SW-User We've separated and I'm not staying there right now.

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