Never Having Kids EVER

Thing is, there are no guarantees what you're going to end up with. You can work like crazy to get them the best education, life skills, traning, lessons, coaches, psychologists, religion experiences...spend a fortune on college, food clothes, orthodontia, hockey gear, dance lessons, drivers training and their first car. Get up early in the mornings for school, practices... stay up late reading to them, having them read to you, helping with homework, driving to games, camping on weekends, going on concert tours, feeding their friends when they come over, dealing with breakups...and chances are they are going to do their own thing and may or may not ever talk to you again after they leave home, get a job, and get married. I guess at that point you know you did it right..

I came to that conclusion a long time ago.

I have a buddy who he and his wife are incapable of having kids. When I asked him why didn’t he adopt he said “I couldn’t love something that wasn’t mine biologically “.
I respected his honesty and I respect yours .

I don’t blame you I’m the product of adoption thankfully I was brought into a decent family and I have my daughter. maybe will adopt a kid at some point but will see how that goes.
Having a child is a crazy think and definitely changes your life.

It’s a responsibility for life. And unless you’re mentally and emotionally ready to look after one human being unconditionally, I wouldn’t recommend it. It’s easy when you start early and have a huge family to rely on…a good support system is key tbh.

Yeah, I'm in a similar boat...not too interested in being a parent right now.
This world is getting more fucked by the day...how can I, in my good conscious bring someone here...not even by their own will.

It's good that you know yourself well enough to realize it likely wouldn't work out. Also, it's not like there's a shortage of children or people in the world. We'd probably be better off with fewer of them.

It’s the hardest job in the world and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone

I’m 64 and never had any or adopted, for a number of reasons.

I always wanted a child. No avenue to be a mom worked out for me.

Yeh same here

I don't have any maternal instincts..since I was little I never wanted kids, still don't. It's my life not there's.

I won't have kids either to bring into a sick world