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Did you ever cut off a TOXIC. Parent?

Completely?

My mother has been the single most toxic abhorrent thing in my life since I was one year old. The degrading abuse began in toddler years and went every day of my life there on…bullying me, mocking, threats and occasional physical assault. I have PTSD as an adult from decades of psychological torture.
Unfortunately I am living with her now and she’s still as obnoxious, demonic and EXPLOSIVE as ever. She just threw something near me because I simply asked her a question ….that makes me so anxious as you think she’s holding something that could really hurt you.
Years ago she said with a pan in her hand, up in the air, *If you don’t get out I don’t know what I’ll do with this*. It made me ON EDGE. All the time after that. I am trying to find work but with chronic PTSD it’s very hard. I need to cut her from my life for good. It’s awful being even in the same room… she’s vile, manipulative, rageful and plain EVIL. She once told my sister who is very ill with severe degenerative diseases and she said she wanted to die, *You don’t have the guts to kill yourself* 🙁Have you ever cut off a parent completely , and how did it feel or go?
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Sapio · 51-55, M
Yes my adoptive mother. I cut her off in April 2021. Best thing I ever did.
Sapio · 51-55, M
@Baybreeze I felt free. I still do.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Sapio I know my "mom" will make me feel guilty if I completely cut her off .. she already does over minor crap. She'll say " maybe I should DIE, " if you even say she doesn't need repeat something five times. Or ' ohhhh never listen to your MOTHER' if you even think of disagree with her. I'm glad you feel free🍀
Sapio · 51-55, M
@Baybreeze maybe try setting some boundaries with her. Don't cut her off if it doesn't feel right.
lissah · 36-40, F
No i can honestly say that i was blessed with having the best parents i could have ever hope for
Banksy83 · 41-45, M
Sing to her
DragonFruit · 70-79, M
No, but I never had a toxic parent (or even in-law).
GoFish ·
sorry.. sounds like she needs anger management.. that's not right of her 🤐

my family live a mile away and i'm on decent terms with them despite everything
Gibbon · 70-79, M
I understand your PTSD but maybe blowing your stack would shock her to shut up.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Gibbon unfortunately I’ve done that several times and she’ll go ballistic…screaming like a psychotic maniac ..I mean literally screaming like you can’t imagine….and then I have to just be quiet for that demon because the neighbor could call police.
Gibbon · 70-79, M
@Baybreeze it's a loosing situation. The only real solution appears to be getting out
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I did at times in my life. The end came without much warning. We parted on good terms.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Best thing my fiancee ever did. She's not crying all the time or edgy.

She's broken and you can't fix her. That she's broken is neither your fault nor your responsibility.

Get the fuck out of there.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I say this because I lived with a narcissist and things DID get violent. Narcs are button-pushers if you let them know where they are and will hit you below the belt every damn time just because they know how to do it. They're as reasonable as an impulsive two-year-old and will die on any hill just to fight you. The fight becomes the cause.

The thing I'm most concerned about is boundaries, because narcs have none, zip, zilch, zero. You say that things are becoming airborne which is truly alarming and my worry is that one or both of you will snap and do something you can't walk away from. You don't want that level of involvement.

Work on getting out of there, that's your best defense.

Fiancee's dad, who was also a narc, is gone, and while I wish death on no one, I'll admit that I am optimistic about the day when mom is no longer here. But she'll likely outlive us all.

 
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