I talked to my son today

I asked him if his 2 year plan about moving out was still on. I already knew the answer, sort of.

He said that his girlfriend was suppsed to be working, saving up koney to move out, but since her leg broke and rebroke, that hasn't happened.

I didn't even want to get into the fact that he could have been saving money as well and hasn't, but that is really not my business.

I let him know that I am getting really tired of seeing my house trashed every time I come home or come out of my room. It's disappointing and upsetting. Especially since he does not contribute anything to the upkeep of the house and his girlfriend was paying $100 a month, but I told her since she is out of work, to not worry about it.

He made excuses, which he already knows I hate.

But he has been made aware of the issues. We'll see what happens.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

I think he should at the very least help with the upkeep of the house, and I would say that even if both he and his girlfriend were paying to live with you. If you live somewhere then you create mess, and if you create mess then you clean it up. The $100 that his girlfriend used to pay, really didn't make up for all the extra work you have to put into the home. You sound incredibly sweet, and not be harsh but I think that your son could stand to show you a little more respect. ❤‍🩹

Strictsir · 26-30, M

Why are you so eager to turn him out of his home? It's a cruel and very difficult world out there, harder than it's ever been for young people, so do cut him a bit of slack and gently encourage him rather than badgering him and probably adding to his anxieties and insecurities. Certainly he should help around the home, but some people are just not as naturally tidy as others, especially alot of men, and if it's mess that doesn't directly affect you, like the state of his own bedroom, then just leave him to it and let him tidy up in his own time. Give them both time to save up a bit and to get their lives together, if you can.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

@FoxyQueen My parents threw me out as soon as I turned 18, despite the fact that I suffered from frequent panic attacks at the time. I didn't even know that they were panic attacks, I thought something was wrong with my heart. I was never able to have a personal conversation with my parents, not once in my life, they only accepted small talk with me. That is all to say, I would have been immensely grateful to have had a mother even half as good as you are to your son. You are going above and beyond for your son, and I really hope that he manages to get his life on track. I think he needs to understand that it is his own life which his actions (or inaction) affect in the end of the day.