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Parents and me

Why do people think that this is a big deal when I or someone else still lives at home with their parents I’m still here because I have no choice I have epilepsy and I have no where else to go. Growing up people would be thrown out of their houses because they are either being disrespectful or just because they’re too old for their mommy and daddy
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Sazzio · 36-40, M
Could be a lot of reasons ranging from jealousy to just curiosity. But for 100% abled people it is unhealthy to be at home after 23 or 24 Why? Conflicts like owner wants to do an interior decoration and kids won't allow it OR want different design. Someone went to Cambridge / Oxford uni but won't work far out so they stick with Minimum jobs like Seamstress, which is absolutely SAD! Especially depending on Degree.

Kids are not really independent and haven't learned about the real world. BUT you have epilepsy so thas different. I know this guy who still at parents due to severe autism. He says "Hi" to me when he sees me.

But yeah for 100% abled... WAKE UP! WAKE UP!
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
Well, most people want to be out on their own, so they don't normally think of your circumstance. Because of your circumstance, it's comforting to know you have that option. So, there is no reason for you to feel disrespected by people and there is no reason for people to look down on you.

It's really a matter of communication, but you are certainly under no obligation to explain your situation. By the same assessment, it is understandable that without knowing your circumstance, people will think it is a big deal that a 31-35-year-old is choosing to continue to live at home.
Zeuro · 26-30, F
My mom got kicked out at 18. Basically when she was 18 her folks moved and she wasn’t allowed to come with them. Thankfully at 16 she had dropped out of high school to work, so she had some money saved up. If I were kicked out at 18 I’d be immediately homeless. I live alone now but tbh it’s only because my parents help me with rent. They’d rather pay to not have to deal with me 🥴
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Zeuro Hmm I would assume they just want you to gradually learn how to be independent, getting some help from the previous generation is a good thing 😋
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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
It's a cultural thing, in other cultures it's normal and expected for their children to live with their parents for as long as possible.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Sazzio Hmm well most people dont travel large distances either way for their first job, I certainly wouldn't. Also, the family dynamic is not universal where parents and children irk each other lol, I mean we all have our differences and fights will happen but that's just how humans work. If it works for someone, then you shouldn't judge them for it.
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Sazzio · 36-40, M
@MartinTheFirst I was 30 when we moved out. Wife had enough of my mum and can't blame my wife at all. She tolerated mum for over a year.

 
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