I just don't get it

Why does a death in the family all was brings out the worst in the family. When my uncle died a few year's ago the whole family was fighting over his stuff and money. My grandfather passed away a week ago and we are trying to plan his funeral and everyone is fighting like a pack of lions fighting over a zebra. Gee my mom hates my aunt. Then my mom and her sister and brother are arguing all most every day

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Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

Grief reactions. People are upset and every little grievance they have comes to mind and they fight about everything. It’s easier than grieving. My brother and I fought over my father’s car…. It was worth $15K hardly worth not speaking to each other for 5 years. I’m ashamed that I was so angry for so long about something that didn’t matter at all. Now my brother is with dad. I miss them both very much.

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

@Muthafukajones at least my grandfather doesn't have much money left at all. We all decided to use it on the funeral.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Because there is always one in the family. We had this close to thirty years ago, when my mother in law passed away. She had lived with us in our home, which we extended to accomodate her. The relationship between her and her eldest daughter had always been fraught. But we made the effort to bury the hatchet for the funeral and sake of forgiveness. Blow me down if the daughter didnt start a fight over costume jewellery in the funeral car on the way to the service.. In a somewhat tense meeting a month later we discussed the will, which left nothing to her (not that there was much) we offered to make a goodwill payment, because it just wasnt right to leave her out in the cold. (BTW, We paid for the funeral) But the response was a legal letter, claiming a portion of our home, as her place of residence. A couple of letters settled that. And we havent heard from any of that branch of the family since.😷

Repete · 61-69, M

When my grandmother passed away it totally tore the whole family apart with the fighting over her things, the worst part was she never had much, lived in her old house that didn’t even have running water. Unless you call running to the well to fetch a bucket of water as running water.
I am glad I’m not going to have that problem .

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Repete · 61-69, M

@smileylovesgaming my grandfather passed away when I was very young, barely remember him. Remembering is a way to keep the good times you had alive and try to let the hard times slip away .

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

@Repete when my mom was young she was coming home from school and she seen the fire department at the house. My grandmother had burnt the living room down. So my grandfather had to turn the barn into the house. My mom been going through old photos and she found one of the old house before it burnt. Another was the barn before it was turned into the house

Repete · 61-69, M

@smileylovesgaming no matter what happens they seemed to get through it by working together, sadly I think we lose sight of the hard times they went through back then.