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I feel like crap everyday now

My dad passed away on the 10th of this month and I'm feeling very sad, I have no one to lean or to turn to for support at all. I'm greiving alone and I feel so sad, I've tried to turn to my mom in this difficult time for me all to be told to just "get over it already" when I'm hurting because I lost a parent. both her and my siblings tell me to stop crying that I need to get over it already that I should be "tough" their stupid asses only say that because they weren't on good terms with him, so they aren't affected at all by his passing. my mom even said that she was happy that he died. I'm tired of having my feelings invaldated idk why my family supports other people who are in emotional pain but will dismiss my feelings. I really have no one to turn to any advice?
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
The grieving process is different for each person. My parents both died within a week of each other two years ago. I wept for a long time. I still miss them. Sometimes waves of sadness and longing for their presence still happens. I'll never be over them. They had a profound effect upon my life.

My faith in God helped me. He ministers to us in ways that are beyond comprehension, especially in our grief.

If you get no support from family, consider looking for a local grief support group. There are others around who understand your pain and loss.
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@OverTheHill I'm sorry for your loss I imagine that losing both must be horrible, I need to restore my faith back in god as I feel like I had a fall out lately. I was thinking of seeking therapy or assisting in those grief groups too.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Pinkglitter You aren't alone in your journey.
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@OverTheHill Thanks, that's nice of you to say ❤️
That's so sad. I'm sorry you are having to go through this without support and caring people around you. Everyone grieves different. There's no set way for people to deal with the loss of a loved one.
Just be patient. Deal with the loss of your dad in your on way and in your own time.
I certainly don't have all the answers, but I have had to deal with loss too. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you.
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@JustJustine thanks, I appreciate it ❤️ and yeah, it'll take some time for me for now I won't be listening to the negative comments from them to dismiss my feelings I just have to cry and let it all out .
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Your family are cold and callous. Shut them out of your life. They do more harm to you than good.

My condolences on the loss of your father. Your grief is normal, it’s your family that is abnormal. Take as much time as you need to grieve. It’s a process. I would not be sharing anything with these sociopaths. It will be very hard to mourn alone, but I have done it more than once. It makes it much harder when you are without love, support, and comfort, but you will get through it. Hugs.
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@Carissimi Thank you, ❤️ I am going to stay away from them because they are only making me feel worse and I see that they are selfish and narcissistic so, at this point I'm like fck them. It'll be hard going through this alone but I know that my dad wants me to be ok I'm going to honor him.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Yes, it will be hard, but you are strong, I can tell. You will get through this, and the memory of your dad, and honoring him this way, he will give you strength. God bless you. 🤗🙏@Pinkglitter
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@Carissimi Thank you, for your support and kind words I appreciate it ❤️
I lost both my parents. Dad was a shock as he had a heart attack. I cried my eyes out and did my best to support my mother. She had cancer and when she passed i was at her bedside holding her hand. I was sad but glad i was there to be with her at the end. We all deal with the loss in our own way. You just need to find your way and be at peace with your self
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@nevergiveup I'm sorry for loss ❤️ they are always with you in spirit. this is I all new to me I'm trying to be strong but I'm also emotional about it all too. I want to find peace too
@Pinkglitter if you want to talk i am here for you
Amylynne · 26-30, F
you feel more intensely than they do and have different experiences of him.
your mom's statement was callouse, but she has expereinces of him you do not.
your grief is for you, and it seems for you alone. charish what you had. keep him in your heart

this is not just going to go away, and you do not need to be tough.
but they are not the ones to share it with
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@Amylynne Thank you, I agree I don't feel like sharing anything in regards to me grieving with them anymore it's best for me. I'm going to honor him I know he's blessing me from heaven ❤️
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@pinkglitter] sorry too here of your loss where you very close with him too . i am very disappointed in your families attitude towards you with the way you expect to deal with his death.he is dad at the end of the day and this should be the time to come together as a family to be there for each other in your time of grief
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@smiler2012 I agree, they are very ignorant and selfish. My older brother understands me though the rest are idiots with no thought process of their own they just want to be in their mommy's good graces. Next time they go through something I'll be just as cold and tell them to get over it.
wunderluv · 51-55, M
I’m so sorry for your loss and especially that your family is so uncaring towards you. That’s horrible. Do you have friends who are supportive and understanding?
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@wunderluv I don't have any close friends really I feel like no one cares I don't expect anyone to but it would be nice to have someone who does care to listen to me.
wunderluv · 51-55, M
@Pinkglitter well I’m here you can message me if you want to. But it seems that what you need most is people who you can meet with who are dealing with grief also.
Start with your local 211 or is it 311 municipal services number or call a local church, even if you don’t go to the church I’m sure they would welcome you to any groups for grief support
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@wunderluv Thank you, I appreciate it ❤️
Vin53 · M
People who were only nominally affected by a death cannot fathom what the close family members are enduring. Its as if someone took an ice cream scoop and randomly took out half of your body contents
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
I am sorry for your loss.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Well unfortunately honey this in itself is a very valuable lesson.
First off my condolences about your father.
But you cannot rely on people. I mean sometimes you can and its lovely to be supported but you never know when even the most reliable person will fail you. This is why I rely on God who never fails.

Your mom and parents are just being a bit childish in how they respond to you because of their hurt or anger. Because of their own feelings they just cannot empathize. These types of failings are part of being human.
If you need to talk to a professional do that, if you need to write your feelings out do that, if you need to cry do that. I also encourage prayer.
Loss is part of life. It is terrible. It hurts, its permanent but almost everyone has experienced it or they will so that is just a little bit of comfort. No one person will be able to be there to comfort you all the way but time will help.
God Bless
Lostpoet · M
At least you know how to express your emotions.
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Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@Stereoguy I'm sorry for your loss❤️ they are always with you in spirit. Can I ask how you coped or dealt with it?
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Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@iamonfire696 Thanks, I appreciate it ❤️
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Pinkglitter Of course
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Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@uncalled4 I feel like telling them to fck off I think I will next time they tell me that stupid shit to get over it.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Pinkglitter If they get angry, tell them to get over THAT. How cruel. I am sorry.
Pinkglitter · 31-35, F
@uncalled4 oh, I will they deserve it.

 
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