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How would you handle a therapist like this?

My sister recently had a therapist that would agree with my sisters distorted thoughts, maybe to validate her, but said them in a brash way. Like my sister said she felt looks are only what matters in dating, and her therapist replied, "Oh ya if you're not a model forget it"😑
Then she talked about our mom's extensive abuse and how it was hell, and she replied, "Hmm can you maybe get over it?" ...uhhhhh Wow. I was absolutely taken back when she told me that. Just to me, completely dismissive.
And then when she said I don't have much self esteem, or know how to get it, she said abrasively, "You get it by things you DO, like I was great in SPORTS and That's how I got self ESTEEM" . (Very sternly) My sister thought, ok and if you're not GOOD at something?
She's not going to continue therapy but how would you handle it? Would you say anything or just stop?
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Jenny1234 · 56-60, M
Where did your sister find this therapist? I’d be inclined to report her
Gibbon · 70-79, M
I would look at the therapist and tell them they need a new job
Jimbo7 · M
Your mother must be possessed, see a priest. 🙏🎚
fun4us2b · M
Um...I want my money back...
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@fun4us2b I know right??
fun4us2b · M
@Baybreeze yeah, pretty gross, reportable - should not be handing out advice like that...
pdockal · 56-60, M
What's the therapists credentials & modality ?????
EldritchFox · 41-45, F
The more therapists I have gotten to know, the more I realize they need more help than I do
Miram · 31-35, F
Leave a bad review and report them for misconduct.

I had a bad neurologist. I even went to their patients waiting room and outed them there inciting patients to change the doctor. And succeeded.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Miram Report to the main facility?
Miram · 31-35, F
@Baybreeze I report to the licensing board first.

Wait a week then report to the facility while mentioning that I have already reported to higher board. It works better that way to avoid their internal relationships and friendships getting in the way.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I think the first remark was her being facetious. And I do get her trying to be a motivator; it just looks like not a good match for your sister.

That said, I think I could do a better job than some of these numbnuts, and that's very sad.

Also, lots of therapy is going to be painful, and indeed, to me, that's an indication that it's in process.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
You know it sounds like the therapist I usually end up getting and no that's not all right for her to talk to your sister that way.
I think you need to go away from therapy thinking it helped you not wondering what you did to set off some therapist to say negative things to you.
I have already stopped therapy again, because the therapist I had practically made fun of my religious beliefs .
I'm not asking them to agree with me, but I'm not going to sit there and be put down either as I can't see how that helps.
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
I'm not sure I would trust any therapist. Are they really qualified?
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Also I wanted to add separately that sometimes a therapist just isn’t a good match and you have to find someone you better connect with to get well
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Muthafukajones So true, yes
GoFish ·
is that even a real therapist? she sounds fake maybe check her degree.. AI on here can do way better than that 😒
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@GoFish Yeah I thought that's just really something to say those things... It's as if she had no understanding of trauma
GoFish ·
@Baybreeze idk that she understands anything, she sounds like a terrible conversationalist too and unhelpful
Thatsright · 61-69, M
I read this a couple of times.
It’s not clear to me, were you in n the session?
Or going on off what your sister told you?
Thatsright · 61-69, M
@Baybreeze Maybe, just maybe what was said was taken out of context. And she didn’t hear what she needed to hear. I’m not a mental health professional. Nor have I had a session with one. I have had to speak with young people about their behavior or problems in the military, or with what was said to them.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Thatsright It could be a possibility, but it happened several times and she said she was on the verge of tears when hanging up. 😕
Thatsright · 61-69, M
@Baybreeze Okay. Still.
Sapio · 51-55, M
I wouldn't call that a therapist.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Sometimes therapists assume some of the personality of their patient to gain a rapport. In time this mirror can lead to self realization about destructive patterns and self sabotaging.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Muthafukajones I'd say it was high ignorance of severe abuse. I can see some mirroring but to say can you get over it...😶
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
@Baybreeze Some tangents of thought are so unrealistic that that becomes the only thing you can say to a person in an attempt to jog them out of their circular thinking.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Muthafukajones But I believe one should never be saying get over it, as a therapist. There's no getting over hellish inhumane abuse. You can heal and move forward, but you really don't get over it.

 
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