How would you handle a therapist like this?

My sister recently had a therapist that would agree with my sisters distorted thoughts, maybe to validate her, but said them in a brash way. Like my sister said she felt looks are only what matters in dating, and her therapist replied, "Oh ya if you're not a model forget it"😑
Then she talked about our mom's extensive abuse and how it was hell, and she replied, "Hmm can you maybe get over it?" ...uhhhhh Wow. I was absolutely taken back when she told me that. Just to me, completely dismissive.
And then when she said I don't have much self esteem, or know how to get it, she said abrasively, "You get it by things you DO, like I was great in SPORTS and That's how I got self ESTEEM" . (Very sternly) My sister thought, ok and if you're not GOOD at something?
She's not going to continue therapy but how would you handle it? Would you say anything or just stop?

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Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

Sometimes therapists assume some of the personality of their patient to gain a rapport. In time this mirror can lead to self realization about destructive patterns and self sabotaging.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Muthafukajones I'd say it was high ignorance of severe abuse. I can see some mirroring but to say can you get over it...😶

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

@Baybreeze Some tangents of thought are so unrealistic that that becomes the only thing you can say to a person in an attempt to jog them out of their circular thinking.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Muthafukajones But I believe one should never be saying get over it, as a therapist. There's no getting over hellish inhumane abuse. You can heal and move forward, but you really don't get over it.