How would you handle a therapist like this?

My sister recently had a therapist that would agree with my sisters distorted thoughts, maybe to validate her, but said them in a brash way. Like my sister said she felt looks are only what matters in dating, and her therapist replied, "Oh ya if you're not a model forget it"😑
Then she talked about our mom's extensive abuse and how it was hell, and she replied, "Hmm can you maybe get over it?" ...uhhhhh Wow. I was absolutely taken back when she told me that. Just to me, completely dismissive.
And then when she said I don't have much self esteem, or know how to get it, she said abrasively, "You get it by things you DO, like I was great in SPORTS and That's how I got self ESTEEM" . (Very sternly) My sister thought, ok and if you're not GOOD at something?
She's not going to continue therapy but how would you handle it? Would you say anything or just stop?

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Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

You know it sounds like the therapist I usually end up getting and no that's not all right for her to talk to your sister that way.
I think you need to go away from therapy thinking it helped you not wondering what you did to set off some therapist to say negative things to you.
I have already stopped therapy again, because the therapist I had practically made fun of my religious beliefs .
I'm not asking them to agree with me, but I'm not going to sit there and be put down either as I can't see how that helps.