Here is a question for you dudes and dudettes!

Let us say you are talking to someone. A love interest! The two of you have been talking for a few months and even act like a couple. Then one fine day, he or she says that they have been invited to spend the night with a friend of the opposite sex, which they then proceed to do. How would that make you feel?

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

It depends. Do you feel that you know this person's character? You can interact with someone and get to know them and through their actions and the things that they say and do, and how they handle situations ,you can tell exactly what type of person they are. So having said that. Do you trust them?

EmpaEmpa · 46-50, MNew

@AngelUnforgiven She have never given me a reason not to trust her, but I would never spend the night at a female friend’s house just out of respect to her. To me this is disrespect. I was just wondering if I am justified in feeling the way I do.

As far as her character, yeah we have spent a lot of time talking but the real test is meeting in person and getting to know her that way.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

@EmpaEmpa Then tell her how you feel. Tell her that it bothers you. Some people may feel its okay to hang out or even sleepover because they may see it as platonic. My best friends are males. You have to keep in mind that you are on the outside looking in. I can't make you feel better about the situation. No one here can. It has to come from her. Your feelings are justified because your feelings matter. You matter! Whether you are right or wrong. That's not for me to say.