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Share your experience moving on after ending a long term relationship

Just broke up after 6 years. Any tips on grieving a relationship?
Luckylu · 61-69, F
Allow yourself to feel and to grieve. Listen to your heart. If you need friends then be with them. If you feel the need to be alone so you can let go then do that. Don’t let others tell you what you should feel or what you should be doing. You are the only one who will know what you need. And if you need comfort find someone who understands and will provide that for you. Then one day you will know it is time to move on.
PassingThrough · 46-50, M
@Luckylu absolutely agree
Fairydust · F
No tips, you just have to grieve it, takes time.
I think I went through every emotion, angry, sad, relief, loss, happy and so on.

Just feel it.
🥰✨
Fairydust · F
@Oster1

Aw I stand up for myself now, not the walk over I used to be 😁
Oster1 · M
@Fairydust Yeah, you can definitely handle yourself. Actually, I'm quite proud of you. I still will be there. I don't like cowards...
Fairydust · F
@Oster1

Thank you 🙏🏻
PassingThrough · 46-50, M
It took a while for me after the relationship ended to come to terms with things. Literally about 20 years because I kept living in the shadow of it and never letting it go. But I asked myself a question over the last few years that helped me. “If I got her back could I have let anything that happened in the time between it ending and reuniting never bother me?” And the answer always was “no”. Because I was too immature to ever let those things go. It made me finally realize no matter what might have happened and possibly getting the future I had hoped for in my twenties, I’d always be the reason it never would be.
ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F
Everyone grieves and copes in their own way

I would say to keep yourself busy, stay productive

Surround yourself will love and support
Boleuskas · M
Sorry to hear that, go out with your friends, find a hobby, go to nature, lear new stuff.. soon after time will do its thing ... Trust me
Oster1 · M
Few circumstances are more hurtful or dibilitating. There is only one way. Kick start your life again and keep your heart open, for a new adventure! 😊🤗🌺
Zaphod42 · 51-55, M
Give yourself time to grieve the loss, then take it one day at a time. Or at least that’s how I’m dealing with my 7 year relationship ending
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
There’s no tips . You have to experience it for yourself . Everyone’s different .
Especially depending on how long the relationship was toxic or if it wasn’t.
Depends on how bad the break was .
Depends on how much resentment you have cause that’s where the grief comes in depending on how long your holding onto it .
It took me a year a half and that was the best thing that ever happened cause I depend upon no one now for my happiness. I don’t look for praise but if praise comes it’s nice to get .
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
i was going to marry some one and she met some one else it took a long time to recover i grieved like a family member died it hurt so bad but i did recover in time stay busy and get rid of every thing that reminds you of that person ,I didn't and that's why i hurt for so long until l i got rid of pics and letters and e mails and deleted all our chats.
Danimonita · 26-30, F
@olderuncle944 It really does feel like that person died, and also a piece of us dies too.
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
@Danimonita yes you are correct but we live and learn and love again dont be afraid to love again .
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
@Danimonita learn to love yourself first of all .then you can love some one else.
TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M
Give yourself as much time as you need to get past it. Try to indulge in things you enjoy. Do things that make you happy.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
It really depends on how your relationship was and how it ended. Try not to repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship.
Think about things that you did that made it go bad.

Think about things he did or the way he was that didn’t work.

Find someone who doesn’t have those traits and try to improve yourself.

Improve yourself:

Lose weight
New clothes
New hair and makeup
Take a course or start a new hobby or make a new gf.

While doing all these new things be on the look out for someone new and imposed!!
LandOfOz · 61-69, M
For me it was finding as much sex as possible
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
@LandOfOz YES!!!

Especially the kinky nasty kind that involves equipment and random people!
LandOfOz · 61-69, M
@Muthafukajones yes it makes you forget about any grief
ProfessorPlum77 · 70-79, MVIP
It will be a process and it will take some time.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
I try to think about the next wonderful person I’m going to meet. Though I’m monogamous, I believe our path will always cross another’s who’s also in search of love.

You just have to be open. You can’t change the past, so smile at the future instead of grieving the past.
Sorry to hear that
eMortal · M
What helped was reliving the relationship in my head but focusing on the red flags I ignored because I was infatuated. In the end the idea of being with such a person again was so repulsive that even if they came back you won’t take them.
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
You just gotta go through it, cry, when you’re angry punch safe things like a punching bag, keep busy, take up a new hobby or 2. Hugs breakups are painful.
SW-User
I have never been in a relationship but I can tell you one thing time heals, give it some time , change your routine and move forward.
in10RjFox · M
Get on with finding a new one .. it's just like how one loses a job and starts preparing for newer ones.. and things always happen for good.
IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M
Sorry about that happening. Relationships are like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit.
...just give it its due, but resist the temptation to wallow in the grief.

I think you'll judge it best.
JohnnySpot · 56-60, M
Being sad for a couple years then regaining happiness again.
Danimonita · 26-30, F
@JohnnySpot it really takes years?!
JohnnySpot · 56-60, M
@Danimonita This one went from a loving relationship to a total bipolar flip, that's why it took so long for me to come to grips with.
Lostpoet · M
Don't rebound carefully plant your feet and one you've found your balance 🤨get revenge.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Yeah say everything you have to say or it'll sit with you years on until you do.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
Give it six months or six weeks. Can't remember the conversion.
Torsten · 36-40, M
keeping yourself busy and lots of alcohol
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
You came back here after 7 years
Danimonita · 26-30, F
@AngelKrish yes! I'm going through my old posts and cringing to death
monellla731 · 46-50, M
i dunno meet new people i guess
dale74 · M
Will not date over two if no marriage
Tres13 · 51-55, M
Welcome it
hunkalove · 61-69, M
🤗🤗🤗🤗
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
Take time. Don't get into a rebound.
They often end in disaster for both parties.
Get used to yourself again.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Stay busy. Take on a new project. Keeping your mind occupied is Job 1. Best of luck!
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
I gave it a lot of time and then rebounding also helps.
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empanadas · 31-35, M
Took me years to realize what I did wrong and how to move forward. Use it as a learning experience

 
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