Share your experience moving on after ending a long term relationship

It took a while for me after the relationship ended to come to terms with things. Literally about 20 years because I kept living in the shadow of it and never letting it go. But I asked myself a question over the last few years that helped me. “If I got her back could I have let anything that happened in the time between it ending and reuniting never bother me?” And the answer always was “no”. Because I was too immature to ever let those things go. It made me finally realize no matter what might have happened and possibly getting the future I had hoped for in my twenties, I’d always be the reason it never would be.