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I’m jealous of people who have no regrets.

I wish I wasn’t, but I already have lots of regrets. So many moments that I look back on and wish I didn’t do that thing or say that thing. I’ve hurt and upset lots of people, embarrassed myself, embarrassed others to make me look better. I’m a better person now, but nervous to do stuff, nervous to say things incase it’s wrong or people laugh at me.
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Boeing · 36-40
You know...owning responsibility about your past is one thing. Then carrying responsibility as a burden and victimizing yourself is not it.
And, another thing..is... there comes a moment to stop punishing yourself and looking for forgiveness, a moment where you look back at yourself with compassion.
None is behaving as badly just because they are an a$$. Usually they hurt deeply and that is why they are taking the dark route. Look at this younger you ...do not reject him as a monstrous human. ..so to dive into deeper layers of forgiveness...... and thank you for sharing with such openness.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Thankyou, I suppose I just have these moments where I dwell on the past and punish myself, it’s not all the time and it’s generally not for long, but I think it’s going to happen for my whole life. I know I can do things I’m proud of and I can be a good person, but I do so regret bullying people so much. You and so many other people here are really helping me achieve so much. It struggle to talk to people about all this because I do feel really bad about everything. Thankyou so much for not judging me, you’re such a nice person and you make this place really nice!@Boeing
Boeing · 36-40
@Strongtea thank you but I don't consider myself to be such a nice person, I am doing my best to be kind and truthful.
Guilt is a Big one to work with, alongside with Shame. I have been working with both myself and still clearing.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
I don’t know what your past is like, but all the time that I’ve known you on here, you’ve always seemed nice. I think we all have some history and no one is perfect, keep working on what you need to, you seem to be a really cool person now, no matter if that wasn’t always the case. @Boeing
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
We all have regrets. But eventually it gets too heavy to carry around a past you can't change. If you are serious about doing better, simply keep doing better and let the past fall away. You're young, learn to ditch the old hurt now and live the life you want having the experience and knowledge of who you no longer want to be.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Thankyou.@ScreamingFox
Rokan · 36-40, M
You are always going to find jealousy if you look at others to compare yourself to. No one is perfect and we all take a journey through life that grows us and we all make mistakes that shape us. You can take time for regret if you want to but you don't need it for self reflection and growth.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Thanks for that. @Rokan
You don’t trust yourself, so you regret what you do. You are carrying snd holding a lot of shame about who you are and what you choose to do..

What if someone told you that no matter what choice you make, there is no wrong one scaled somewhere and weighed out. It’s just your choice. And once you choose it, then the universe/reality just work with what you did. Not against you, but with you.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
You’re right, I do feel a lot of shame about the things I’ve done. The concept you mentioned is really interesting, I’ll look into it/think about it. It’s obviously quite different to what I’m used too so it seems pretty wild to me. It feels like I need to change quite a lot of how I think. But thanks, I appreciate you writing about it, it’s really helpful. @deathfairy
There is nothing to change, nothing to make better. There is just accepting who you are.

I know you are like from a more conservative and Christian perspective, so the closest way I can explain is, what you think are mistakes, are just points where you are learning who you are not.

You don’t want to be an alcoholic because that’s not who you are, you don’t want to regret things because that’s not who you are. @Strongtea
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Thanks so much for this, it’s really really helpful. 😊@deathfairy
I try to see it as lessons
We are all still learning and growing and just trying our best * some more than others *
onewithshoes · 26-30, F
The capacity for self-reflexion is a gift, that helps make you a better person.
You should be thankful that you have it,🙏 not envious of those who lack it.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Thankyou@busty78
Zonuss · 46-50, M
I have no regrets.
There's no need to envy.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
That’s really great! You’re a good person and I’m really happy for you. 😊@Zonuss
RachelLia2003 · 22-25, F
bc your alcoholic
Strongtea · 22-25, M
That’s funny, but we’re not alcoholics. You’re just being a bit uptight. @RachelLia2003
RachelLia2003 · 22-25, F
@Strongtea just get some coke. to be more clear coca cola or pepsi etc. not the one u take it from your nose
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Ok, fair enough, we might just do that. I wouldn’t dare do the up your nose one, it’s gross and scary. @RachelLia2003
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Strongtea · 22-25, M
I sort of know this, but I can’t help feeling them. @AlienTheExtraterrestrial

 
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