I’m jealous of people who have no regrets.

I wish I wasn’t, but I already have lots of regrets. So many moments that I look back on and wish I didn’t do that thing or say that thing. I’ve hurt and upset lots of people, embarrassed myself, embarrassed others to make me look better. I’m a better person now, but nervous to do stuff, nervous to say things incase it’s wrong or people laugh at me.

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deathfairy ·

You don’t trust yourself, so you regret what you do. You are carrying snd holding a lot of shame about who you are and what you choose to do..

What if someone told you that no matter what choice you make, there is no wrong one scaled somewhere and weighed out. It’s just your choice. And once you choose it, then the universe/reality just work with what you did. Not against you, but with you.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

You’re right, I do feel a lot of shame about the things I’ve done. The concept you mentioned is really interesting, I’ll look into it/think about it. It’s obviously quite different to what I’m used too so it seems pretty wild to me. It feels like I need to change quite a lot of how I think. But thanks, I appreciate you writing about it, it’s really helpful. @deathfairy

deathfairy ·

There is nothing to change, nothing to make better. There is just accepting who you are.

I know you are like from a more conservative and Christian perspective, so the closest way I can explain is, what you think are mistakes, are just points where you are learning who you are not.

You don’t want to be an alcoholic because that’s not who you are, you don’t want to regret things because that’s not who you are. @Strongtea

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thanks so much for this, it’s really really helpful. 😊@deathfairy