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Shameful experience. I reached out to my ex boyfriend's gf just to find out why she was flirting with him while we were together and why she lied to m

She responded by putting up psalm 35 on her WhatsApp status to defend herself it seems. Psalm 35 is basically a curse towards me and all I wanted was to find out why she lied and flirted with him, although she told me she wanted us to work on our relationship.Am I in the wrong for wanting to know this
Ladyofemotions
31-35, F
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HootyTheNightOwl
Why reach out to her??? If he thought so highly of you, then he would have shut it down straight away without your input.

He's a big boy, too - and he has to be trusted to shut down any other girl who might try her luck with him without you holding his hand.

If he failed to do that, then your problem is with him, not her.
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@HootyTheNightOwl moment of weakness. She was involved in our relationship before but he told her he wanted to try with me. She assured me she left us to work on the relationship but the messages were flirtatious and she called him very often.
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HootyTheNightOwl
@Ladyofemotions Ultimately, though, he had to be the one who put his foot down and told her "Enough is enough".

If she's bothering you with the calls and messages, you raise that with him and ask him to deal with his ex.
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@HootyTheNightOwl she isn't bothering me. I am the one trying to find out why she was flirting ( I saw messages) when she gave me her word she would let my ex and me work on our relationship.
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Ynotisay 路 M
I'd probably ask myself what good could come from asking or knowing. I see none. Everyone loses. But I also understand how some need drama in their lives and will seek it out. I don't get that but I know others are wired differently. So I guess it's your call. Probably don't even need to ask the question. You know the answer that works best for you. Good luck.
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@Ynotisay I don't know what's good for me at this point
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Dino11 路 M
Time to move on.
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@Dino11 easier said than done. I'm having a hard time with this
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Reflection2 路 41-45, M
Some matters need permanently closer and those who enjoy others suffering, never wish to provide it so we keep burning.
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caccoon 路 36-40
If she knew you were together, then you can just be confident in knowing she made a shitty decision.

Your ex is an ex for a reason. It's infuriating and hurtful, whatever happened.

But It's best to let it go and let your own life continue on. 馃挋
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caccoon 路 36-40
@Ladyofemotions it's okay. I think we need to go through these things to learn what feels bad and is not best for us.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time, and I really hope I didn't seem harsh. 馃挋 First breakup is really tough (it was for me, anyway), because it's all new.

But all painful things really do instruct us and prepare us for the future. I hope that you have a lot of support around you and things you love and can immerse yourself in to give yourself time to heal 馃挋
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@caccoon thank your. It is hurtful and I feel like just being angry at them both but I'm trying my best to be calm
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Smileforall 路 36-40, M
@Ladyofemotions may we talk?
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smileylovesgaming 路 31-35, F
What is a WhatsApp?
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GanglandCriminal97 路 26-30, M
Just get a new one
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bijouxbroussard 路 F
How would knowing a reason help at this point ? Was she your friend before they got together ? Even if she was honest and said, "I was interested in him and hoped you guys would break up", what would it change ? 馃ズ
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@bijouxbroussard I'm sure he did too.
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bijouxbroussard 路 F
@Ladyofemotions I apologize if I sounded unkind. It鈥檚 just that I kind of know this story. Years ago, I was seeing someone who couldn鈥檛 seem to make up his mind. I made it about [b]him[/b], not [b]her[/b], because it was his decision. Then [b]I[/b] decided to make my life simpler by not being one of his options. It wasn鈥檛 easy, but like @caccoon said, there are a lot of good people out there. Better options.
I wish you well.
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@bijouxbroussard you aren't unkind. I'm just in that denial stage.
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BigGuy2 路 26-30, M
Nope, you're not wrong, if for any other reason, it may help you in future with bf's as to why it went sour

BUT

he's the problem, not YOU

I remember years ago when a Poliitician was found out by the media of cheating on his wife, he did the usual 'prepared statement' speaking to the media outside his home with the dutiful wife {and child} stood behind him, she was visibly shocked/upset, but no Reporter asked HER ...

"How does it feel, him cheating on you, now you know what his FIRST wife must have felt like when he was cheating on her with YOU"
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Ladyofemotions 路 31-35, F
@BigGuy2 I take it God will work it out. I just don't like the psalm 35, curse that she out up. It's a terrible thing being cheated on...hurt me to the core. But what's worse is that even the polygamists are open and honest
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BigGuy2 路 26-30, M
@Ladyofemotions obviously, she's mentally unstable if she bringing down on you, a curse - he'll be 'Bobbited' by her one day
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