Shameful experience. I reached out to my ex boyfriend's gf just to find out why she was flirting with him while we were together and why she lied to m

@caccoon I have fought so hard to. I only wanted to know why because I spoke to her and she assured me she's leaving us alone to work on the relationship. But I found out while we were together, she was flirting and calling him a lot. I sort of blame her for him leaving along with my insecurities.

@Ladyofemotions you're still in a relationship with him?

@Ladyofemotions I’m sorry, how do you blame her for his choices ? A man who doesn’t want to leave, doesn’t. 😞

@caccoon no but we still communicate via phone often and I was recently invited to visit him. he's my first love, so it's not easy for me. He was hers too but she left years ago, had a child, and kept pursing him until things happened...

@Ladyofemotions if he's not your partner, it's most healthy to let it go. Stop talking to him. At least for a while.

Life is rich with great people. And if you still feel a connection in a few years. sweet. Reach out. But, it's best to have more experiences first 💙

@caccoon thanks for being kind as I'm having the hardest time with the breakup and forgiving myself for reaching out to her about it.

@Ladyofemotions it's okay. I think we need to go through these things to learn what feels bad and is not best for us.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time, and I really hope I didn't seem harsh. 💙 First breakup is really tough (it was for me, anyway), because it's all new.

But all painful things really do instruct us and prepare us for the future. I hope that you have a lot of support around you and things you love and can immerse yourself in to give yourself time to heal 💙

@caccoon thank your. It is hurtful and I feel like just being angry at them both but I'm trying my best to be calm

@Ladyofemotions may we talk?