When is it ok to ghost someone you love if something comes up?

Instead of putting all power in their hands step up. Text them "I will assume our plans are canceled today unless you respond in 15 minutes"

Maybe they go "Aaahhh sorry I haven't looked at my phone there's been a shit ton of things at work. Of course our plan is still up."

Or they go "Sorry, I haven't had time to respond but yes, I have to cancel today"

Then you have the choice to go "Then you are responsible to plan a new time with me"

Or they don't say anything then you let 15 minutes go and then you let it go.

Take charge

I don’t think so. Communication is key. It’s doesn’t take two moments to let someone know you’re busy, I personally wouldn’t leave someone hanging like that.

I think it depends on what comes up- common courtesy would be to let you know if you two have made plans. But there are exceptions where we need to step back from ourselves and be reasonable in expectation.

Without knowing the exact situation it’s hard to offer an opinion. Generally a quick text or phone call is a reasonable expectation between people who are close.

Ghosting is far too common these days and plays havoc with people's minds. Common courtesy would be a quick text.

Common courteousy is not a lot to ask for

I’m not sure the context of this. I get hurt easily with stuff like and I’ve had to learn to not be so sensitive. Sometimes things just get busy I guess. Is this a romantic type relationship?

Seriously, it only takes 10 seconds to shoot a quick text. Sorry I'm gonna be busy for the rest of the day. I don't need to know any reasons or anything call, just let me know that we can't Get together as planned.

Could be a million reasons. Real life happens, I've got stuff to do and if you aren't who I'm on my way to see it isn't that important

It takes a minute to text. A minute to call. Not informing is disrespectful. Do not tolerate that ever.

A scenario I'm all too familiar with. And people wonder why I hide behind my wall

I wouldn't classify that as ghosting. I suspect you have a standing date as it were. People lose track of time so you have to tell them.

The problem here is do you really know the both of you share the same love.

No, their selfishness is greater than their cowardly love. It takes two minutes to text a quick explanation.

I agree with you there. It’s just plain rude IMO. I’ve never liked to be treated that way.

yep. a quick text at least.

it happens to me too. it hurts me.

Yep.

hi i can not send you a massge want to chat??

please