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When is it ok to ghost someone you love if something comes up?

Is it too much to expect at least a quick text to say they have something else they must attend to ? I dont demand to be top priority but give me the courtesy of a quick heads up so I dont wait all evening for nothing then wake up in the
middle of the night feeling hurt and feeling pathetic for feeling hurt.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Instead of putting all power in their hands step up. Text them "I will assume our plans are canceled today unless you respond in 15 minutes"

Maybe they go "Aaahhh sorry I haven't looked at my phone there's been a shit ton of things at work. Of course our plan is still up."

Or they go "Sorry, I haven't had time to respond but yes, I have to cancel today"

Then you have the choice to go "Then you are responsible to plan a new time with me"

Or they don't say anything then you let 15 minutes go and then you let it go.

Take charge
[big][center][u][i][b][c=A69800]Have you made plans with that person?

Do YOU phone THEM ASWELL OR Do YOU let them get in touch ALL THE TIME.. Coz if that is so than maybe it is good to think how that makes the other person feel.

If not than just ignore what I said 🙃

BUT it is not good to "ghost" is stupid, pathetic, unfair and not nice. [/c][/b][/i][/u][/center][/big]
megrose · 56-60, F
@PrincessRoarBuddyinpain i dont leave it up to the other person to do all the calling or texting. I tried to .contact a few times.
GLITTER · 36-40, F
I don’t think so. Communication is key. It’s doesn’t take two moments to let someone know you’re busy, I personally wouldn’t leave someone hanging like that.
@GLITTER It’s just common courtesy. But many people have no manners these days.
OliverM · 22-25, M
I think it depends on what comes up- common courtesy would be to let you know if you two have made plans. But there are exceptions where we need to step back from ourselves and be reasonable in expectation.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Without knowing the exact situation it’s hard to offer an opinion. Generally a quick text or phone call is a reasonable expectation between people who are close.
Loverofthebeautiful · 41-45, F
Ghosting is far too common these days and plays havoc with people's minds. Common courtesy would be a quick text.
@Loverofthebeautiful You said it best!
Common courteousy is not a lot to ask for
megrose · 56-60, F
Seriously, it only takes 10 seconds to shoot a quick text. Sorry I'm gonna be busy for the rest of the day. I don't need to know any reasons or anything call, just let me know that we can't Get together as planned.
Could be a million reasons. Real life happens, I've got stuff to do and if you aren't who I'm on my way to see it isn't that important
PoetryNEmotion · 61-69, F
It takes a minute to text. A minute to call. Not informing is disrespectful. Do not tolerate that ever.
A scenario I'm all too familiar with. And people wonder why I hide behind my wall
Notladylike · 36-40, F
I’m not sure the context of this. I get hurt easily with stuff like and I’ve had to learn to not be so sensitive. Sometimes things just get busy I guess. Is this a romantic type relationship?
@Notladylike It’s not about being sensitive… it’s about common courtesy to me.
Notladylike · 36-40, F
@Curiositeintrigueedunefille I was referring to myself being quite sensitive because that is my frame of reference.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
I wouldn't classify that as ghosting. I suspect you have a standing date as it were. People lose track of time so you have to tell them.
spice1 · 46-50, M
The problem here is do you really know the both of you share the same love.
@spice1 It doesn’t have to be love (Eros) relationships. It could just be friends. And the friendly thing to do is say “got to go”
in some form or fashion. It’s about doing the right thing.
No, their selfishness is greater than their cowardly love. It takes two minutes to text a quick explanation.
I agree with you there. It’s just plain rude IMO. I’ve never liked to be treated that way.
Buildingadoor · 26-30, F
yep. a quick text at least.

it happens to me too. it hurts me.
babyboy42 · 41-45, M
hi i can not send you a massge want to chat??
babyboy42 · 41-45, M

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