Ok so I got rid of most of my male facebook friends when we first started dating. (This was over 4 years ago) I have a few guys that I’m cool with but we dont ever talk. But my boyfriend was getting all mad about me posting that 2 piece swimsuit earlier on facebook. Saying he knows I got other men on my Facebook who he doesn’t want to see me wearing it. But what difference does it make whenever I go out in public to the pool and I’m wearing it 🤔 there’s gonna be men there too seeing me in it. I mean, does he just think I got the 2 piece just to wear around the house? We don’t even have a pool like oh what ? You think I’m just gonna wear it in the bathtub?
Just so y’all know, we have another therapy session tomorrow, so I’m definitely gonna bring this up.
It is normal to be a little posessive of your partner but this chat is a bit triggering . He needs to know that you’re not a piece of furniture that he will own it . So what if you have guy friends ?Everybody does .So what if you display a swimwear pic ?Again many women do . what about male colleagues?what about supermarts where there are male staff ?taxi drivers ?How can he stop anyone gazing you .If anyone wants to gaze you ,they can do it offline or online ,both !How far can he possibly go ? The fact tht he wants you to be for his eyes ‘only’ is sick ! It cannot be .This is not 1960’s. If you don’t stop this controlling behaviour it will soon break you off ,morally degrade you and make you feel less worthy in the relationship. Relationships work on equals.
@Convivial I mean the fact that we’re going to couples therapy and he hasn’t proposed to me and we’ve been together off an on for four years and he’s acting like this on top of that, yeah I’m about to dip and go somewhere else. He’s been stressing me out.
@TurtlePink I'm sorry to hear that... But I think it's necessary maybe... Maybe the right guy just the wrong time in his life... Maybe he needs a bit of time to mature more... Good luck with whatever you decide
In my opinion, In his mind the guys on your Facebook page have "access" to you. Whereas, strangers at the pool are only just "looking", he cannot control people's eyes but he doesn't know whether one of those guys on FB may messege you, and not having THAT control is whats bothering him.
@AngelUnforgiven he said that he saw the comment that the guys were making and he didn’t like it, but keep in mind they wasn’t even saying anything bad they were just saying they haven’t seen me post in a while.
And plus most of those guys have wives and kids they have a family. Nobody said anything concerning at all.
