How do you learn to trust someone after they get "emotional"?

It's mostly women I have this problem with, platonic or otherwise. I do something they don't like, then they fly off the handle, and then suddenly we're friends again like nothing happened? I'm sitting here scratching my head like "what the actual f***?!?!"

I try to keep my distance so I can process, but then they try to fix it and then as soon as I let my guard down it happens all over again. Any advice?

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

It's Hormones, 100%. It's the nurturer in us. In my experience it takes women a quicker time to recover after being angry than men. Men tend to hold on to things a bit longer .From what you are saying sounds like whatever they blew up about was small. So when they bounced back from it you weren't quite there there yet.

Happens to me all the time. I get angry with my soulmate about something and then the moment it hits me that I fu*ked up and try to tell him he's not trying to hear it yet. He's still hurt and in the moment. So I have to talk him down and apologize. That's just how we are

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