How do you learn to trust someone after they get "emotional"?

It's mostly women I have this problem with, platonic or otherwise. I do something they don't like, then they fly off the handle, and then suddenly we're friends again like nothing happened? I'm sitting here scratching my head like "what the actual f***?!?!"

I try to keep my distance so I can process, but then they try to fix it and then as soon as I let my guard down it happens all over again. Any advice?

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Frostcloud · F

i have personally almost never seen someone "fly off the handle" for no reason. the only exception is my ex, as he was dealing with a lot of jealousy and insecurity. i would guess you either somehow contact only incredibly insecure people, or people with personality disorders. or, maybe, self reflect and see why the things they dont like bother them. it's not that weird for people to get upset after being treated poorly, especially if it's consistent. eventually they'll snap. if you care for them it's best to ask why they don't like the things that have made them upset, and from there you can decide if you want to pursue a friendship or not