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SomeMichGuy · M
Hmmm...the "second-guessing" game can be harsh.
If this happens, esp. around decisions (and that is often where we put in such mental efforts), you might find Ben Franklin's method helpful:
take a sheet of paper, write the question in a yes/no form (or other binary choice) at the top, draw a vertical line in the middle, and write *your* reasons FOR the question (a "yes") on the left, numbering them. Do the same for *your* reasons AGAINST the question (a "no") on the right.
At the end, when you have thought of all of *your* arguments, see which has the greater number.
Choose that.
Caveat: you have to list the same level of reason; you might have bigger concerns and lesser ones. If so, that's fine, but try to be honest with yourself about whether or not reasons are of a roughly equivalent parity, in value to *you* (whether yes or no).
This is from his [i]Autobiography[/i].
If this happens, esp. around decisions (and that is often where we put in such mental efforts), you might find Ben Franklin's method helpful:
take a sheet of paper, write the question in a yes/no form (or other binary choice) at the top, draw a vertical line in the middle, and write *your* reasons FOR the question (a "yes") on the left, numbering them. Do the same for *your* reasons AGAINST the question (a "no") on the right.
At the end, when you have thought of all of *your* arguments, see which has the greater number.
Choose that.
Caveat: you have to list the same level of reason; you might have bigger concerns and lesser ones. If so, that's fine, but try to be honest with yourself about whether or not reasons are of a roughly equivalent parity, in value to *you* (whether yes or no).
This is from his [i]Autobiography[/i].
Lilymoon · F
@SomeMichGuy interesting
SomeMichGuy · M
@Lilymoon It also gets it out of your head and onto a paper, so it helps to clarify vague "reasons", etc.
Franklin claimed that he used this as his standard algorithm for decision-making.
He was very successful in public & business life, and it wasn't ghostwritten, etc.
Franklin claimed that he used this as his standard algorithm for decision-making.
He was very successful in public & business life, and it wasn't ghostwritten, etc.
val70 · 51-55
Oh yes, did that often when I was much younger and more naieve. Perhaps give you an example. There are atleast three people who blocked me that have already responded to this. Just in case, I'm not a newbie and never appreciate a bully. No need to overthink blocking someone who's not a stalker and actually is someone out there and not hiding away
XDHyperGirlXD1 · 31-35, F
Your mind is filled with butter tarts 🤭
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XDHyperGirlXD1 · 31-35, F
@Lilymoon 😋
Lilymoon · F
@XDHyperGirlXD1 it was gooood
XDHyperGirlXD1 · 31-35, F
@Lilymoon i know i ate it 🤭
SW-User
All the time
Lol
Lol
Lilymoon · F
@SW-User what are you thinking about now? 🤭
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Lilymoon · F
@SW-User it's always something 🤔
Pretzel · 61-69, M
i've never been accused of thinking
let alone overthinking
let alone overthinking
SW-User
overthinking is a symptom of inaction.
Lilymoon · F
@SW-User thank you professor scott 🤭
popmol · 22-25, M
that's all i do!
HelenWheels · F
Especially when I'm trying to sleep 😵💫
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Yes. Part of being a libra.
Lilymoon · F
@MrBrownstone I'm not a libra and I overthink all the time 😬
SW-User
I'll have to think about it.
Ducky · 31-35, F
You know it! 🤪