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SomeMichGuy · M
Hmmm...the "second-guessing" game can be harsh.
If this happens, esp. around decisions (and that is often where we put in such mental efforts), you might find Ben Franklin's method helpful:
take a sheet of paper, write the question in a yes/no form (or other binary choice) at the top, draw a vertical line in the middle, and write *your* reasons FOR the question (a "yes") on the left, numbering them. Do the same for *your* reasons AGAINST the question (a "no") on the right.
At the end, when you have thought of all of *your* arguments, see which has the greater number.
Choose that.
Caveat: you have to list the same level of reason; you might have bigger concerns and lesser ones. If so, that's fine, but try to be honest with yourself about whether or not reasons are of a roughly equivalent parity, in value to *you* (whether yes or no).
This is from his Autobiography.
If this happens, esp. around decisions (and that is often where we put in such mental efforts), you might find Ben Franklin's method helpful:
take a sheet of paper, write the question in a yes/no form (or other binary choice) at the top, draw a vertical line in the middle, and write *your* reasons FOR the question (a "yes") on the left, numbering them. Do the same for *your* reasons AGAINST the question (a "no") on the right.
At the end, when you have thought of all of *your* arguments, see which has the greater number.
Choose that.
Caveat: you have to list the same level of reason; you might have bigger concerns and lesser ones. If so, that's fine, but try to be honest with yourself about whether or not reasons are of a roughly equivalent parity, in value to *you* (whether yes or no).
This is from his Autobiography.
SomeMichGuy · M