Conversation starters
I can't sleep rn and I realized I have almost nobody to talk to on here. Mostly cause I stopped answering messages that just say hello, hello how are you, what do you like, etc.
So I thought I would give suggestions to folks on how to make engaging conversation:
1. Read a person's profile first and try to find something unique about them to start a conversation around. Don't just reiterate something you found on their profile, make it a question or give an interesting perspective.
2. Be specific with questions. I can't begin to count the number of times I've been asked what do I enjoy doing. Clearly you haven't read my profile if you ask me that. And it's such a vague question that's hard to even decide where to begin to answer sometimes.
3. If you are asking a question, before you hit send think about how you would answer it. If just thinking about answering it annoys you, it will probably annoy the other person more to actually have to respond. So again come up with better questions.
4. Adapt to who you're talking to. Some people like to lead a conversation, others like to follow. Some people need to get comfortable before they start sharing, others might be open straight away.
5. Stop apologizing too much. This might be a personal one, but it's such a turn off. What you message me on here will almost never offend me.
Not sure how helpful these will be. I could probably keep going but I'll stop there for now.
So I thought I would give suggestions to folks on how to make engaging conversation:
1. Read a person's profile first and try to find something unique about them to start a conversation around. Don't just reiterate something you found on their profile, make it a question or give an interesting perspective.
2. Be specific with questions. I can't begin to count the number of times I've been asked what do I enjoy doing. Clearly you haven't read my profile if you ask me that. And it's such a vague question that's hard to even decide where to begin to answer sometimes.
3. If you are asking a question, before you hit send think about how you would answer it. If just thinking about answering it annoys you, it will probably annoy the other person more to actually have to respond. So again come up with better questions.
4. Adapt to who you're talking to. Some people like to lead a conversation, others like to follow. Some people need to get comfortable before they start sharing, others might be open straight away.
5. Stop apologizing too much. This might be a personal one, but it's such a turn off. What you message me on here will almost never offend me.
Not sure how helpful these will be. I could probably keep going but I'll stop there for now.
