Conversation starters

I can't sleep rn and I realized I have almost nobody to talk to on here. Mostly cause I stopped answering messages that just say hello, hello how are you, what do you like, etc.
So I thought I would give suggestions to folks on how to make engaging conversation:

1. Read a person's profile first and try to find something unique about them to start a conversation around. Don't just reiterate something you found on their profile, make it a question or give an interesting perspective.

2. Be specific with questions. I can't begin to count the number of times I've been asked what do I enjoy doing. Clearly you haven't read my profile if you ask me that. And it's such a vague question that's hard to even decide where to begin to answer sometimes.

3. If you are asking a question, before you hit send think about how you would answer it. If just thinking about answering it annoys you, it will probably annoy the other person more to actually have to respond. So again come up with better questions.

4. Adapt to who you're talking to. Some people like to lead a conversation, others like to follow. Some people need to get comfortable before they start sharing, others might be open straight away.

5. Stop apologizing too much. This might be a personal one, but it's such a turn off. What you message me on here will almost never offend me.

Not sure how helpful these will be. I could probably keep going but I'll stop there for now.

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Pitsilizater · 31-35, M

Why do you think people should even care that much?

MrSmooTh · 31-35, M

@Pitsilizater That is actually a good question. It's a major question for everyone in life. Essentially, "what should one give a fuck about and what does one give a fuck about?" Everyone gives a fuck about something in life or else no one would ever ask "who gives a fuck?" Because they wouldn't give a fuck in the first place. Then there's how much of a fuck to give. Do you invest all your fucks in everything you do or do you sometimes give some of a fuck? 🤔

gabisart · 26-30, F

@Pitsilizater people care enough to log in here on a near daily basis. Just giving some tips u don't have to follow them.

Pitsilizater · 31-35, M

@MrSmooTh My willpower is limited. So I am frugal with the fucks I give.

Pitsilizater · 31-35, M

@gabisart You didn't really say anything with your answer. All I got is that you got annoyed.

MrSmooTh · 31-35, M

@Pitsilizater Yeah I have a limited supply of fucks so I have to ration them.

gabisart · 26-30, F

@Pitsilizater if you want to come on here and have surface level conversations all the time then do that. What you suggested is that nobody should care about the quality of their conversations, which is just ridiculous.

Pitsilizater · 31-35, M

@gabisart when did I suggest that? As if a deep conversation can't just start without prior research.. Total strangers do have deep conversations IRL without any prior knowledge about each other.

MrSmooTh · 31-35, M

@gabisart Suggesting that no one should care about the quality of all their conversations is ridiculous. Though, suggesting that no one should care about the quality of [i]some[/i] of their conversations is perfectly logical. It all goes back to what people give a fuck about and why. It's not logical for someone to give a fuck about absolutely everything, but it is also not logical for someone to give a fuck about nothing. Even if there is nothing else that one cares about, one would care about not giving a fuck at the basic level.