Conversation starters

I can't sleep rn and I realized I have almost nobody to talk to on here. Mostly cause I stopped answering messages that just say hello, hello how are you, what do you like, etc.
So I thought I would give suggestions to folks on how to make engaging conversation:

1. Read a person's profile first and try to find something unique about them to start a conversation around. Don't just reiterate something you found on their profile, make it a question or give an interesting perspective.

2. Be specific with questions. I can't begin to count the number of times I've been asked what do I enjoy doing. Clearly you haven't read my profile if you ask me that. And it's such a vague question that's hard to even decide where to begin to answer sometimes.

3. If you are asking a question, before you hit send think about how you would answer it. If just thinking about answering it annoys you, it will probably annoy the other person more to actually have to respond. So again come up with better questions.

4. Adapt to who you're talking to. Some people like to lead a conversation, others like to follow. Some people need to get comfortable before they start sharing, others might be open straight away.

5. Stop apologizing too much. This might be a personal one, but it's such a turn off. What you message me on here will almost never offend me.

Not sure how helpful these will be. I could probably keep going but I'll stop there for now.

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Teirdalin · 31-35

Honestly you kinda sound too difficult to talk to. I just want to have casual conversations about random things and not have to do a deep dive into every person I meet. 😩

gabisart · 26-30, F

@Teirdalin that's perfectly fine as long as the random things are interesting.

Teirdalin · 31-35

@gabisart I've had four hours of sleep and decided that I'm just going to wake up now actually. Midnight is a decent hour during summer.

Would you like a tarot reading of your recent past, your present and your near future?

gabisart · 26-30, F

@Teirdalin uhhh sure never done that before

Teirdalin · 31-35

@gabisart That's fine because I never gave non friends tarot readings before either. So I don't entirely know the energy and thoughts I should be putting forth going into this and it may be, completely incorrect.

gabisart · 26-30, F

@Teirdalin I have no clue what is even involved in this

Teirdalin · 31-35

The Death card in the past position suggests a major change or transformation has occurred in your life recently. This could have been a difficult time, but it has also led to growth and new beginnings.

The Page of Wands is a card that often represents new beginnings, creativity, and inspiration. It can indicate that you are feeling enthusiastic and passionate about new opportunities, and are ready to explore and experiment with new ideas.

The High Priestess is a card that often represents intuition, inner wisdom, and the subconscious mind. It can indicate that the you are seeking knowledge or understanding that may not be immediately obvious or visible, and may be encouraged to trust your instincts and inner guidance. The High Priestess can also represent the need for balance and harmony between the conscious and unconscious aspects of the self.

That sound right at all?

gabisart · 26-30, F

@Teirdalin wow that's pretty spot on 👍