A bit bummed out

As a woman who comes off a bit masculine sometimes I feel like women get the wrong idea about my intentions . I’m a tomboyish woman for reference but I do like to mix an androgynous look with femininity on myself .

I asked this woman in my college class if she’d like to hang out as friends sometime since we do get along well . It’s the end of the semester and summer vacation is starting soon so why not

She said , “yes ! I’d like that” and sent me a message to get in touch with her on instagram . So I requested to follow her and she has not accepted the request since .

I think she got the wrong idea about me and it bums me out a bit since I’m breaking out my shell and wanting to make female friends but not for romantic reasons . Mind you , I like men 😔

Sometimes I wish I were more feminine to be honest or maybe I just need to accept myself as my weird self

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NJ2000 · 26-30, F

@SomeMichGuy thank you for your comment but I am a bit confused . I’m a sporty type of tomboyish gal but I do dress up on occasion . I think my issue is accepting that I can be the best of both worlds

I’m not too sure “ on what choices I can make on whatever message I wish to convey more clear “ I guess , the first step is accepting myself and know that those who are for me will be with me and those who won’t well won’t .

I guess since it’s my first time asking a gal to hang out as friends and was rejected for putting myself out there , it bummed me out a bit.

SomeMichGuy · M

@NJ2000 Be thou not bummed. 😊

You will be fine

NJ2000 · 26-30, F

@SomeMichGuy thank you ☺

tiltawhirl · 36-40, F

Keep being you and you’ll find your people. It’s good to be different really. Sometimes it doesn’t feel that way but it actually really is.

NJ2000 · 26-30, F

@tiltawhirl thank you ❤

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

Hey, I can relate as a male that is 100% heterosexual and only wants friends Guys and Girls to hang out with as my Androgynous Willa self. But all I have ever received in return were accusations of me being gay or Bi and not really straight by women, and the guys it is either hate or they are gay and Bi and want sexual relations. And that is a Strick "hell no" for me.

So, I feel your against and wished people would not judge without really getting to know you or myself.

I love tomboyish girls and take that as a compliment and not a flirt.

Willa

NoxAeterna · 41-45, M

No need to be someone you're not. Honesty and self-acceptance...I think you'd be happier.

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

Be who you are happy with. Because when you do make friends, they will want to spend more time with a happy you. It may take a bit more time and effort to get going, but friends are something where quality counts more than quantity as the years go by.

being · 36-40, F

I like tomboy women friends:)

LamontCranston · M

Embrace your individuality.

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