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Why do most tall girls/women complain about not having a boyfriend? Why not just date short guys?!

Why don’t they just give short boys/men a chance?! They’re too busy trying to look for tall men that mostly prefer short women. I mean Don’t be so shallow! Why do they think they get rejected so much? Because they refuse to date someone shorter than them. They could miss out on a great guy!
I know a girl in college and she’s about 6ft tall. She hasn’t had any luck on dates. She’s been turned down because of her being tall.
She said every guy that’s hit on her or interested in her are her height or shorter than her. Her two exes were shorter than her. She said she envies my height because petite women get the cute tall men. We’ll height doesn’t even matter even if we have preferences.

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redredred · M

Whenever I hear women criticizing men for being too shallow to date fat women I ask why they don’t want to date short guys. Universally the response is something along the lines of, “That’s different”

It’s not. BTW and FWIW, I’m 6’2”

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chrisCA · M

@redredred At least a person has some control over their weight, but not with their height.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@redredred I *heard* men being tall as a preference is just our primitive instinct of wanting a dominant/protector male as a mate which would increase survival chances of the family.
IDK man. Just read in somewhere on an authentic website called SW comment section a few years ago.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@redredred And obesity I think is unappealing because of the constant slimwashing of our brains since we are born. By the television and other media.

As would go for eurocentric features being the standard definition of "conventionally beautiful".

That being said, I think times are changing and a diverse group of features body types and heights are being accepted both in the film industry and in free lance modeling industry.
Which in turn can neutralize the definition of attractive mating features among the newer generations.

JestAJester · 31-35, M

Im not really that short. But i do like tall and short girls. Great perks with both

WhateverWorks · 36-40

🤔 I haven’t known tall girls that have any different rejection issues than short girls. They just have a harder time finding men they are attracted to who they are also a good fit with in other ways. I think… people know who they are and are not attracted to and we should really stop trying to guilt people out of what comes naturally to them. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Friendship is an important relationship foundation and other qualities are also attractive, but only seeing someone as a friend/teammate that you force yourself into being sexually aroused for doesn’t (very rarely) works long-term. I definitely wouldn’t want someone to have to mindfnck themselves into being with me lol

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@WhateverWorks Okay yeah you do have a point but she needs to understand that if she keeps rejecting guys because of their height or size, she will miss out on a great guy.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

People say that’s a lot, but it’s almost never the case 🤔 Hell, people said this a lot to me and it definitely turned out not to be true. People end up alone for a lot of reasons, but it’s typically nothing to do with height @PetiteJulie01

astrosandorbits · 26-30, M

Im 6ft tall. Not too tall but ive never found tallness in women attractive. Ive always loved shorter women. But just personal preference. I know some guys like tall girls. But yah she shouldnt have her mind set on just a tall guy. Even though i would think as a woman being taller than your man would be somewhat disappointing. It shouldnt be! It's just how ive always felt lol

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@astrosandorbits That’s alright. At least you’re honest. My younger brother doesn’t find tall girls/women attractive at all either. He prefers average or shorter women because he finds them more enjoyable and feminine. Makes me glad I’m not a tall woman. With my 5’0” self.
My younger brother is 5’7 in a half. He also said most taller girls/women are pickier for his opinion.

astrosandorbits · 26-30, M

@PetiteJulie01 yes it all just comes down to personal preference. The best part? That's okay! People have different desires.
5 ft tall, eh? You're super tall! 😆just kidding that's a great height imo lol

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@astrosandorbits haha right. Sometimes I wish I was taller! Can’t reach shit and clothesline aren’t short enough

kentex35 · 100+, M

I dated a gal that was 5'11. And with good posture I'm 5'8. A lot of guys envied me. Maybe it just looks funny when you are slow dancing. But sometimes I hated when she was drinking she'd would lean on her elbow which was on my shoulder. But she was just really into shorter guys and preferably a few years younger.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

Ehh my gf is 5'9. I'm about 5'11. She said that she didn't want a guy shorter than her, and is happy that I'm still taller than her when she wears decent height heels. I would be fine dating a girl taller than me, but I def see the trend that women want taller. Thankfully I'm "tall".

Entwistle · 56-60, M

People have preferences. I've never once fancied or dated a blonde woman.
Nothing against them at all,i just never found them attractive.
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Boleuskas · M

Justice for us short men 🙂

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@Boleuskas You guys are men too.

Boleuskas · M

@PetiteJulie01 ofcourse, I never had issues with my hight, that is something i got from my parents, but I did date taller women, my ex wife was some 10 cm taller, i never had problem with that, neither did she, and I am 170 cm

LeopoldBloom · M

The problem is mostly short men who don’t want to date taller women. I’m 6’ and wouldn’t have any issues dating a woman taller than me, although there aren’t many women over 6’. But I can see how a short man could have issues with that.

I also prefer women who weigh more than I do. A woman who is 6’4” and weighs 500 pounds would be amazing.

SW-User

I have dated girls 5 foot 10 and above, being over six feet myself, I don't understand what height has to do with it. Love is what it is and it is not prejudice. I don't understand why all that should matter

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@SW-User Thank you!!! Finally someone with common sense👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

SW-User

@PetiteJulie01 My pleasure and thank you :)

BiasForAction · M

Wisdom

smiler2012 · 56-60

really does it matter so much as long as you like each other and compatable why worry about such trivialies 🤷‍♂️[juleskittykat]

ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M

Is your tall friend a superficial person in general?

PetiteJulie01 · 22-25, F

@ServantOfTheGoddess Well she isn’t high maintenance or superficial. She is just very picky and shallow about mens heights. She expects a man over six feet or smoking hot.