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Thinking about walking away

This is my personal feelings and my personal experiences with Christianity and the church. Been thinking about walking away from Christianity, for quite some time. I still believe there is a God, and I’m still a spiritual person. I don’t go to church anymore, for reasons being that I don’t believe in being a part of something that does not accept me, or other people, even when they have “welcome all” signs up. I don’t want to be somewhere that is a constant reminder of when I was molested as a child. Church doesn’t and never have, given me that comfort, that I always wanted. I’ve been to churches where I was judged for being disabled. I’ve been to churches where I’ve experienced racism. I have searched and searched, and thought I found the perfect church, then a guy, kept bothering me and wouldn’t leave me alone, so I left and never looked back. I see church as just a building. A building that doesn’t want me there anyway. I don’t feel bad about walking away. In fact, it’s the opposite. Because I can freely have a personal and spiritual relationship with God, and be at peace with that. I can’t really say that I “dislike” Christianity, I just feel like it’s just not for me.
Pikachu Best Comment
You don't need a church and a congregation.
Christianity is, at its heart a relationship between you and god. If church doesn't serve you well or indeed, if it harms you then you're better off without it and no less a good Christian/child of god for leaving it behind.
karysma · 31-35, F
@Pikachu I think as Christians we each have a role to play in spreading the gospel to the world though we're not a part of any church. We're after part of the body of Christ.

Disguised · 56-60, M
Im not a 'religious' person as such BUT i live by Christian principles. I know i 'behave' better than some regular church goers i know. I think living to your own principles, sticking to them is the important thing. If you need a formal time for pray than set aside a time and place that suits you. Can be a park bench.. same place same time every week or day or have a different place every day on a 7 day rota..for quiet reflection away from your normal routine. Making it a small pilgrimage .. somewhere where there is a bit of a effort to get to... you don't need a group to be spiritual... i wouldn't mind placing a bet if you set up a routine after a few months people will stop and chat as their routine overlaps yours... quiet reflection place mine is in the middle of the woods in the village 1 1/2 miles away... i walk there... have chance to think on the journey.. think on the bench and reflect on walk home... hope this helps... i wrotd more than i intended...kinda helped me tbh..
Adstar · 56-60, M
@Disguised Beliefs are either correct or false.. When it comes to God and having eternity with Him there is only One way.. And that is by believing Jesus and trusting in the atonement Jesus secured by His death on the cross...
Disguised · 56-60, M
@Adstar thats your view... can you accept people who don't agree with it
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Sounds reasonable. Spiritual is better than religion imo. It is more vague and leaves much more room for tolerance. Religion on the other hand is dogma and strict adherence to one of over 45,000 different interpretations that must be follow or else condemnation to hellfire. You could try the mystical sects. Such as Sufism in Islam, Kabbalah in Judaism and Gnosticism in Christianity. Only problem is with Gnosticism is that many of the surviving texts are just that, surviving. They have huge chunks missing at times because the people that believed and followed them were tracked down and killed by the early church.
Another thing might be to find a Unitarian Universalist church. Many Christians hate them though because they take and learn from other faith systems to the point that some don't consider them Christian. But those tend to be the same kind of people that think Catholics aren't Christian either.
But no spirituality is not a religion and neither one is a building. And none of them even have anything to do with other people. Faith should be no one else's business but your own. It should be personal and unique to you.
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@canusernamebemyusername thank you! It is better to not be told what to do. One thing I don’t like is being told what to do. That is why I’d prefer to do my own thing.
"I think the greatest problem with religious systems such as Christianity is their pessimistic view of human nature. If you teach a generation of children that they are sinful creatures by nature, that left on their own they are morally corrupt, deserving of eternal torment in hell, that they are not to be trusted to think their own (selfish, evil) thoughts, all of this can become—has become—a self-fulfilling prophecy. Whole segments of the population grow up with a negative self-image, thinking they really are rotten, in need of a savior or father figure. They are told they are bad, so they act like it. Their religion exaggerates and demonizes normal human feelings, turning them into cosmic struggles with evil, creating devils to be fought instead of problems to be solved.”
― Dan Barker
Adstar · 56-60, M
When will people realize Christianity is about ones dealings and response to The LORD Jesus and should never be primarily about ones dealings and responses to other people in churches...

If you have been searching for your perfect churchianity religion and have not found it then that surprises me NOT..

I have been a strong Christian for over 30 years and i have never been a member of a church.. I don't follow people, i don't worship people.. Christianity is not about preachers pastors and popes.. It is about GOD and His will and ones personal response to Him...

So many times i read posts like yours.. This church member or that church hierarchy did me wrong and so i am abandoning Christianity.. It's frustrating.. Because i know that person has never known what Christianity really is.. They have only known what churches are and how humans fail each other..

Humans failing each other and letting God down should be no surprise to anyone on this earth..
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@Adstar as a child, I was told, by the pastor, that if I didn’t go to church, then I was going to hell. The same church I was molested in. I get that Christianity is about having a personal relationship with God, and have used those same practices for years, and to where I’ve not been to a church in years. You can have a relationship with God and still be spiritual, which is something I prefer. Calling myself “Christian” just doesn’t feel right for me.
Adstar · 56-60, M
[quote]@Adstar as a child, I was told, by the pastor, that if I didn’t go to church, then I was going to hell.[/quote]

Yep you where mislead.. that's for sure..

[quote]The same church I was molested in[/quote]

That's a tragedy but i am not surprised.. God gives false witnesses to his will over to a debased mind and they start to engage in all kinds of deviant destructive behavours..

[quote]Calling myself “Christian” just doesn’t feel right for me.[/quote]

I can understand why.. But i do not give the name Christian over to those who have dishonored it.. It's my identifier and i am not going to give it up to liars and perverts in false cult churches..

I hope you have overcome your terrible experience,, being molested does often cause a lot of personal and relationship problems later on in life.. May the LORD give you the strength and peace of mind to overcome the crime that was committed against you..
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@Adstar thank you!
Budwick · 70-79, M
Are you trying to convince me?
Or, yourself?
Fluffybull · F
Just worship privately, you don't need to go to church to believe. You can read your Bible anywhere and live by what you believe. It's sad you've found bad attitudes and abuse in what should be safe places.
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@Fluffybull thank you!
Most Christian Churches are tax free Republican voting blocks. The leaders of these churches feel the political power they have and are calling for a White Country with White "Men" in control of everything. The Chirch is responsible for a lot of the devision and hate in the country.

You sound like someon with common sense who can see through the bullshit. I wish you well.
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@Pitchblue thank you ❤️
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@Pitchblue During the Jim Crow era, churches were the leaders against racial justice and integration because they didn't want to lose their customer bases. Churches are just local businesses that are dependent on their local population for their financial support. If new ethnicities move into the neighborhood the church will lose its customers and eventually go broke.
karysma · 31-35, F
Christianity is not a building. It's a relationship with God. You should understand that people's spiritual growth does not happen in the same pace as everyone. It's no excuse for what they did to you. If you've decided to turn your back on God and go back to the darkness then it's up to you. Scripture after all does say that some will turn away from the faith before the rapture. I hope you reconsider because the rapture is so close now. Jesus could come any minute now you don't wanna be left behind.
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@karysma I never said I was turning my back on God. I’m just considering walking away from Christianity.
karysma · 31-35, F
@NaturalBeautyQueen like I said dear Christianity on it's own is a relationship with God. Saying you're turning away from Christianity is saying you're turning away from God. I guess what you're trying to say is that you'll stop going to church.

I'm not a part of any church myself haven't been for a while now. I've found a spirit filled church but the thing is my mom doesn't like me going to another church and since I live in her house I obeyed. Will do what I want when I move to my own place 😃
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NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@hippyjoe1955 looks like you just came here to argue.
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
@NaturalBeautyQueen looks like you came here to whine
NaturalBeautyQueen · 36-40, F
@hippyjoe1955 Lol…. Okay. Guess this is your thing.

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