I’m curious

Has anyone seen polyamory/“sharing” work? Or does it always end in tears.

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exexec · 61-69, C

Limited sharing with certain conditions worked for us, but my wife had shown in college that sex could be a recreational activity with no romantic/emotional baggage. We knew it would not hurt our relationship.

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@exexec I can’t imagine having the confidence that things wouldn’t change in the relationship..

exexec · 61-69, C

@DHggmu I suppose most people don't have the trust that we share.

KatyO83 · 36-40, F

I had a long term open relationship but it was biased in my favour. We did eventually drift apart etc. Really we were better friends than as couple.

I have 4 fwbs currently but no live together relationship

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@KatyO83 Casual sex without the drama is always nice, glad it’s working for you.

Blanchy · 31-35, F

I think it can work if it's the agreement from the start, but from what I hear it almost always ends up in tears if introduced into a currently monogamous relationship. I personally don't really believe it's a way of having a relationship, instead I think of it as friends with benefits. I don't mean to say there's anything wrong with it, I just feel like it suddenly got trendy and now people view it in a bit of a weird way.

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@Blanchy Yeah I think things that used to be considered “taboo” are a lot more common now, though I don’t hear much about polyamory, other than what I see online etc.

Blanchy · 31-35, F

@DHggmu I agree and I'm glad that it's so, people shouldn't feel bad for living life the way they want to. This isn't something I encountered IRL either, only on the internet. Perhaps people are just not open about it IRL tbh.

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@Blanchy Yeah exactly, live and let live. It just makes me curious about their way of thinking and living tbh. But I can see why people wouldn’t be too open about it, we get judged for any reasons as it is.

BigImo · 22-25, F

I've watched it work for my parents for over 20 years now. My three mums and two dads are all still madly in love with each other

SW-User

I’ve had FWB for a good few years, we tend to fill a void for each other at times. We know each others kinks and are happy with but we tried dating and it sucked. Last year we got together with another girl who is sort of FWB of us both, we spent about 6 months ‘dating’ but it was not brilliant as no one really wanted to be committed to a full on relationship.

caccoon · 36-40

I've seen it work for short periods of time, but usually it's been a way for people to break from their current relationship safely

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@caccoon what a roundabout way to break up with someone..

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JollyRoger · 70-79, M

@Somerset Beginning? Yes, start with friendship that may or may not transition to 'dating' and see what happens : Some people find their 'soul-mate' (stupid term - as it drips of ownership) during their first experience but most people wish to and (smartly so) dip into sexual relationships with several people for the sake of comparison. I.e., If you get stuck with 'vanilla' on your first taste, how will you ever know what 'orange pinapple' tastes like?

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