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How Feminine are you?

Poll - Total Votes: 37

Women ye Femininity is important to me?

Men is Femininity important to you in a wife / Girlfriend

Men no feminity Is not of importance in my wife / girlfriend

You can only vote on one answer.

Listed below is a Wiki description of Femininity.
Obviously depending on whether whether or not one was male or female they may a different idea entirely.

The question on how important, or unimportant feminity is in a female. Crossed my mind recently when I was confronted with the fact ,

( party stemming from another SW question)

That if I am honest..I no longer enjoyed meeting with certain women acquaintances, largely because their lack of feminity .. actually annoy s me.

I e Over swearing, being happy to challengeing a Man/ Woman , by squaring up to them. Not regularly styling ,brushing , combing, their hair, not wearing earrings , perfume. Or changing their wardrobe seasonally.
Wearing even a little bit make up , summer skirts and dresses I could go on .. but I think I've laid the foundation

And when I compared those women - to the ladies whose company I Really do Enjoy - the difference came down to their possessing typically ( if not more than the usual) feminine traits

Obviously this isn't about cutting down women who possess a balance of both feminine and male traits .

Or are simply to busy to care about these things .It's just suddenly 'personal 'realisation on my part my 🥺

So the wiki definition is this.. Reading I would comfortably say I processed all of these traits .

However is this all there is to being a feminine woman or is something missing 🤔

"Traits such as nurturance, sensitivity, sweetness, supportiveness, gentleness, warmth, passivity, cooperativeness, expressiveness, modesty, humility, empathy, affection, tenderness, and being emotional, kind, helpful, devoted, and understanding have been cited as stereotypically feminine.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org › wiki"

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Patientlywaiting · 46-50, FVIP Best Comment

An interesting post! I am very feminine, I definitely work to make myself as feminine as possible as I know my husband is specifically attracted to those qualities. Equally I appreciate traditional masculine qualities of strength, courage, independence, leadership and assertiveness.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@Patientlywaiting 🙂 a wonderful balance thanks for sharing 🌹

Patientlywaiting · 46-50, FVIP

@Kae20 Thanks for best comment 😊

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@Patientlywaiting darling you are most welcome x

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Traits like nurturing, supportive, empathy, affection, kind, and understanding are important traits for anyone. I don't regard those as feminine traits. They are traits of good people. Men who lack those traits are not good men, generally speaking.

As for traits in women like challenging men, not wearing earrings, not wearing perfume, not requiring seasonal wardrobes, wearing little to no make up - I find those to be desired traits in a woman. I don't find earrings and perfumes unattractive but I find the confidence and willingness to go without to be very appealing.

But I've always kind of had an attraction to what a lot of people consider to be tomboys.

MrCane · 56-60, M

An interesting post and I must confess that I have given a lot of thought to this subject myself.

For the most part I share your thoughts on the definition of femininity and my pet peeve these days is that so many women seldom if ever wear a skirt or dress. For me there is always a "tomboy" element about trousers and a skirt or dress always looks so much more elegant and feminine. I recognize that the days when women usually wore skirts (or indeed had to wear them) are gone and will never return but that just makes me more appreciative of women who do regularly wear a skirt or dress because they really stand out in these days of dreary androgyny. So to take an example, my preference will always be to be served by a lady wearing a skirt or dress in a restaurant and while I would never be uncivil to another waitress wearing trousers, I will not tip her anything like as generously than her female colleague wearing a skirt or dress. Likewise, I could never see myself dating a woman who always wears trousers or jeans because I just find it so unladylike and unattractive and that would immediately indicate to me that we are incompatible.

I recognize that a lot of women will brand me a superficial sexist for thinking that way, but my view is that just as women have a choice about wearing skirts or trousers, men have a choice when it comes to how you like a lady to dress and the extent to which you choose to engage on a social level with a woman who dresses in a way that you really dislike.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@MrCane thanks for sharing your lovely opinion 😊

GoneSilent · 26-30, F

In this era, Men and women who have perfect balance of masculine and feminine traits are far more appreciated than any other extremes. Too feminine women might be labelled as weak and too masculine men might be labelled as rude and emotionless.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@GoneSilent good!!! Point 🙂

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ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

I have many of those traits, yet I don’t think I’m particularly ‘feminine’ in my style of dress or mannerisms.

I get dirty, I ride quads, I play in the mud, I work a dirty job, I am most comfortable in jeans and boots as opposed to skirts and dresses (although I can rock both at any time)…I drink beer and I swear at times….but I am definitely a lady while I’m at it.
I have class and can be quite refined.
And I seem to command that level of respect (I have been accused of being standoffish, yet I am far from it)

So while I possess most of the feminine traits as defined above, I am not feminine.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@ImpeccablyImperfect 🙂 thanks for writing, I would definitely agree with you that you are Not "feminine"

Feminine isn't just about embodying
' some' of traits . It's about being a female.. who naturally without question lives a ' Feminine Lifestyle'

She both concsiously & subconsciously Chooses to live that way.

Doesn't mean she's weak or pathetic wallflower.
She just takes an immense amount of pleasure in being a woman who lives that way.

Also I believe we tend to attract men who appreciate feminine women. Wherein as couple we form a type of mutual appreciation club.

In tandem works beautifully 🍓

PrincessRoarBuddy · F

[quote]but I think I've laid the foundation
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[big][center][u][i][b][c=A69800]Sorry but you think wrong and u have not "laid" anything..well whoever wrote that.

So what if a Woman or girl swears and does not wear makeup. Nothing wrong with wearing jeans/leggings,trousers/shorts and top

It is good to TALK and SPEAK UP say if someone is being rude to you or when you are being told what to do. Although some things are not good..

And no the last things does not make a real female a "feminine woman"

This person is judging women before knowing them and anyways some who fit that might be a real nasty piece of work..

Maybe women and girls do not wear makeup all the time and don't always need to look nice/wear dresses.

I wear dresses sometime with leggings under or other times tights, long dresses if warm. And sometimes put makeup on but not all the time 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Matt85 · 36-40, M

I find this question to be a little probing, very personal.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@Matt85 is that

good or bad ?
🙂 if you don't mind me asking ..why?

Gloomy · F

[quote]Over swearing, being happy to challengeing a Man/ Woman , by squaring up to them. Not regularly styling ,brushing , combing, their hair, not wearing earrings , perfume. Or changing their wardrobe seasonally.[/quote]

Since this does describe me I guess I am not stereotypically female. I do have an issue with stereotypes in general.

Nurturance, sensitivity, supportiveness, being gentle and warm, being helpful and understanding, empathy, being emotional,... all good traits that should just be considered human traits. That these traits are associated with feminity is a serious societal problem we should all work together to fix.

Passivity and modesty are very unhealthy traits in my opinion and have been used as an argument against equal rights for women.

in10RjFox · M

Humanity has been mistold about masculine/ feminine aspects after being misconstrued by the past, there by rendering the male/ female concept too as flawed. Unfortunately masculinity became attached to arrogance and haughtiness .. but truly masculinity is the soul & spirit that is in each of us .. and feminity is the body and matter in which the masculinity resides and operates ..

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in10RjFox · M

@Kae20 🤗 .. I had sent you a PM yesterday I think .. hope your inbox is not as full and that you ignore ..

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@in10RjFox noo not at .. l just don't receive PMs is why , but thanks anyhoo darling x

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@in10RjFox 🤗 thanks hon msg received and responded to xx

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I don't care about women styling, changing wardrobe, wearing jewellery or perfume. What I care about is hygiene, manners and compatible personality. But if we talk about prejudices, I am more likely to approach women who don't wear stylish clothes and tons of makeup because they seem as more likely to be down to earth and fun people.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@CrazyMusicLover I welcome opinions from across the board .. & yours is fab . I don't believe the Wiki list is exhausted as you mentioned good hygiene being important. Which I think should go without saying.

When I mentioned the traits I like I didn't mean for those traits to overly emphasised " ie " tons of makeup" I find unnecessary, never being out of a dress being the same. Etc etc

IamCuriousBabe · 51-55, F

I find the questions problematic. Also, expressions of femininity are culture-bound.

SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M

I support and encourage any strength or positivity any individual woman would possess or strive for, but I'm old enough to TOTALLY appreciate "femininity", not deferring to men, but rather in her loveliness we support and encourage each other, i tend to her needs first and she tends to mine in kind?

SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M

@Kae20 versus the stalemate my marriage has turned into....

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@SilkandLace2 Such a shame when it should be working but isn't. Wishing you better days to come darling xx

MorbidCynic · F

I consider myself feminine but not in the traditional sense due to my life experience. I’m only nurturing and gentle to people who earn it. I’m not passive because passive allows people to abuse you. Modesty is misogynistic nonsense.

ElRengo · 70-79, M

I´m not tied (or not inconditionally) to dividing stereotypes, not at least some generational / cultural ones.
Even so and as a man (an old one) I still appreciate a "something" less easier to define and even harder to cleary express.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

I tend to think more male and have more "male associated" interests, but I definitely like to look feminine without being over the top super girly.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@ravenwind43 🙂 sounds like a comfortable balance . Before age 16 I used to consider myself a lil bit of a Tom boy , & ever since I can certainly have a laugh and a bit of a joke with male relatives and friends.

Still I embrace my Femininity and enjoy the multitude if options and aspects which come with 🍓

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

I’m not sure where I would fall to be honest

I’m not a mega girly girl (style wise and when I open my mouth haha) but I do possess a lot of the traits listed