I Have a Problem So, I have been in US for 7 months. It's been very different and difficult for...

zeeva70 · F

Adjusting to another country is difficult, takes time, and a support system of people who understnd what you're going through. Do you know other people or a group that you can join of people from Indonesia in the US? Perhaps you all can get together to cook and share stories.

Second, going home for a visit is probably all you need to help adjust too instead of going back permanently so talk to your husband about that. Perhaps you can go home for a visit periodically instead of ending your marriage after being in the US for 7 months. You'll come back refreshed.

Last, think about your life goals. What would you like to accomplish (i.e. start a business, further your education, etc.)? Write down the steps you need to take to get there. Get excited about life again.

I know during the holiday season, being away from family is particularly difficult. I'm wishing you the best.

4meAndyou · F

It sounds as though family is very important to you, and you are experiencing culture shock. If you leave your husband and return home, will you feel just as miserable because you have left your husband?

When there is a huge life decision like this, sit down and write down all the good things on one sheet of paper about living in the US and write all the bad things on another sheet of paper. Do the same thing with the idea of going home.

Number each good thing and each bad thing. Then count them.

Vivaci

Unless you're getting a job here, and making new friends....I'd say this feeling will get worse with time. There you have your support system too, but are you willing to live without husband?

He most likely won't come back for years? Are you willing to move on live your own life there?

SW-User

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HerKing · 61-69, M

Start by not starting your sentences with 'so'.

FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F

Don't stay if you're not happy, life is too short to be miserable for the rest of it.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

Sounds like you have to make a choice one way or the other -- return to Indonesia where you feel at home or stay in the US and learn to deal with things here. No one can make the choice for you, you have to go with what seems best for yourself.